So I don't know if you all remember my post from a few months ago, catching my husband of nearly 10 years cheating & I thought it was mid life crisis.
After months of "working on it", I caught him talking to her again. This time he was also financially supporting her whilst leaving me & my son broke (his son too).
Well I've decided to part ways completely!
I'm 6.5 months pregnant with my second & realised that I will be going into labour alone.
I've gone through the pregnancy alone, which to me is the easy part.
But I am truly scared, I'm nervous, I'm TERRIFIED.
Just wanted to hear from other mums who have done it. Tips?
Because I know I'll be an emotional wreck & probably have no energy to push.
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Im sorry hes a jerk but good on you for making the right choice. It takes huge strength to do it, its painful, but you will get through and it will get better. So you may well have all the strength by then when you realise how strong you are and how you can do this alone betterthan with that ass holding you down.
if you have a friend or neighbour ask them to be your support person. Most people are honored and will drop everything day or night to be there for you.
I would suggest contacting your local university, or even ask at the hospital you are giving birth at, if they have any student midwives looking for pregnancies to follow. They attend appointments with you prior to the birth, are there for the birth and then do follow ups with you and bub. I had one for my first baby and she was amazing - it was nice to have someone to talk about my pregnancy with and by the birth I knew her quite well and she was so supportive and calming and with me every step of the way.
Good luck mumma - you've got this. You've already shown how strong you are leaving his sorry ass x
Actually you'll be surprised at how well you'll cope.
You will be so focused on the baby your ex won't even feature in your thought patterns.
I was 20. I didn't give a shit what my ex did or didn't do when I was in labour. I was focused on what was happening. The midwives etc were incredibly supportive.
There is a group on facebook (call the student midwife) where you can find a student midwife who'll be with you during labour :) Its usually a really positive experience!
Aww honey. With my first labour i was there alone for the majority of it as my then partner (now ex) decided to go out for lunch instead of stay with me. The midwives were AMAZING! They made me feel so supported. Do you have a best friend or family member who could be with you?
Firstly, Good for you!!
Secondly, I was practically alone for all the help my husband did, sat around reading a comic while I was occasionally groaning on the bed, he was "waiting for the action, or something to do" .. well I'd had an epidural (my 3rd child), best thing ever, and the baby crowned before any of us were expecting it, midwife had a check on me hrs before due cos I said Oh it's burning and stinging, saw the head coming out and banged the alarm button for rest of team to come in, they held my legs up and open, coached / coaxed me thru it, I was laying back on the bed laughing and all hubby could do was jump around taking photos that I told him to take .... mate, the nurses and midwives are awesome, and in the end you wont really even notice whether you have a husband/partner there cos it's all about you and your body and your baby, you will be Just Fine on your own!! xo