Mums who want more babies but for whatever reason can’t- how do you cope knowing there won’t be any more? Every fibre of my being yearns for another baby but due to finances, we can’t have another. I still get flutters when I so much as look at a baby and holding one sends me in to a euphoric state. I have two beautiful children already and as of next year, they’ll both be at school. Should I just be happy with the two I have and forget my desires for another? And if so- how do I move past it?
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Imopen to the idea ofmore. Just not right now or anytime soon. I think of it as an option for later, maybe. And right now i choose two and know I dont want the financial stress of more.
I think I might be one of those women that have another two in fifteen years time. Or maybe adopt or foster. I see it as being so far in the future anything can happen by then.
I don't think you can force that feeling to go away. But you can learn to accept that its an emotional reaction to gorgeous little babies and accept you won't be having any more.
The feeling goes eventually. I couldn't have more than my one due to a number of factors. Yes I grieved, and that's ok. Seeing other peoples babies was hard but it got easier.
I found allowing myself to grieve, but I also worked on mindfulness therapy. I found once my son got to a cetaun age it got a lot better.
Not allowing myself to become obsessed or hyper focused on babies really helped and that's where mindfulness really made a huge difference.
Now the thought of more kids makes me want to vomit!
The feeling does go away. I'm too focused on the kids I do have than to worry about ones I don't. I doubt in 20 years time you'll look back and go "Gee I hate my life because I didn't have more kids" :)
I have one child and while now is no where near ideal for having another, there is honestly a huge part of me that yearns for just one more... But hubby is 100% dead against it. I keep myself going by knowing that circumstances may change. Unless you can't for health reasons (or you've had the important parts removed), never say never. For me, it's a tiny possibility that may not happen but there's a little ray of hope that he may change his mind one day.