A good friend of my brothers has recently and unexpectedly passed away. His wife is going to be at an event this weekend that I am also attending, I know her well enough for normal pleasantries but I haven't seen her since her husband died. I'm just wanting some advice on how to approach her or what to say. I'm pretty socially awkward and suck at small talk at the best of times so would love a little guidance
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How long has it been? What kind of event is it?
About a month. And it's a birthday party for a mutual friend
My girlfriend was petrified to go out in public after her husband passed just because of the looks and questions and the well intentioned “how have you been” Just tell her you are glad to see her. The rest will come. Xo
Thank you. This is great advice!
Say hi, greet her by saying its lovely to see her and that your brother sends his love, so youve acknowledged her pain without making her talk about it, then make small talk about what you've been up to.
If she wants to talk about it, she will, so follow her lead and say things like, she's in yours and your brothers thoughts and you're just a call away for whatever you can offer, a cup of tea, babysitting, a meal, mowing lawns etc.