We recently left domestic violence and abuse. This abuse was physical, emotional and hugely mental. I am yet to discover if it was also sexual towards the children. He is victimised and narcissistic with gas lighting behaviour. We ended up involved with social services and the situation became so bad I packed up sold up and fled the country we were in to be safe from him. The fallout is huge. I am still functioning at the moment purely for my children I think. I am devastated to now find that there is sexual abuse now going on between my children and the police child abuse is now getting involved. I have 5 children aged 10 and under. I have put gates in to keep the children separated to a point. Have also put cameras in the boys (10 and 8). I am trying everything I can think of but at a point where I need help. I have tried to get this help but so far no one has listened until one of my children disclosed this abuse to the school Chaplin.
Fallout from domestic abuse and violence
Fallout from domestic abuse and violence
Posted in:
Life Lessons, Relationships & Marriage, Mental Health, Loss & Grief
6 Replies
So angry for you, why do we have childrens services if they can't provide immediate help for these situations! Keep trying! Unfortunately they are the only ones I can think of that can help you right now.
Please don’t disclose your full location but it would be helpful to know which state and general area.
In NSW, if police are involved they should refer you to JIRT for investigation. From there they refer you support services for example in western Sydney you could be referred to Rosie’s Place.
I am so sorry you are walking this path. It is a horrid thing to have to process as a mum.
Perth WA onto the referral process and a highly recommended centre for help but the waiting list is 5 months. They are currently seeing if they can bump us up the line and any formal interviews will be done through that centre. Being hyper vigilant and just trying to keep them all apart. So far with the gates in place girls are staying in their side and now trying to keep the boys apart. Looking at putting in an extra gate.
Edit your comments - you need to hit anonymous every time you post
Sorry, I am confused.
Do you mean you have left all of that and then now you have found out that your children are sexually abusing their siblings at home?
Yes we left the domestic violence and abuse flying into Australia in November this new information only surfaced last week. Referrals are in and now have an appointment next week to discuss plan of action