I’m looking for just some opinions on a situation, I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer for this one its probably more of a hypothetical than anything, about a month ago I stumbled across a nasty and hurtful message sent last year from an old friend, I’ve never seen this message I just accidentally clicked on the chat and there it was “did your second baby turn out ret****d like the first one” (referring to my older son who has quadriplegic cp) so after a little investigation it turns out this persons ex sent out mean messages to people on his account. I get looks and people saying things all the time, if I got bent up over every little thing I would be a very sad person but it’s just part of our life it’s just this is one... I’m struggling to get past. She sent it months after having her own first child late last year, got married to another guy and is going on like she has a ‘normal life’ she even added me on her own account a couple of weeks before I saw this message like she didn’t just send a dagger right through my soul and make my face burn with anger. I know she lives locally so I don’t know what I would do if I saw her, I know violence isn’t the answer but it has been weeks and I still cannot work my way through it. If any one has any suggestions on how to deal or cope with this I would love to hear from you!
*edited because of my terrible wording, my old friend is a male and I’m 100% sure his ex hacked his account and sent me that message on his account.
Nasty people
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You said her ex sent it, and he sounds like a bit of a cunt. She's rid of him and may not even know about the message?
Show her the message. She may know nothing about it. Then take it from there.
I’d reply to the message. “After this message I don’t feel it’s appropriate for us to be friends, this is extremely hurtful and not something I’d expect to receive from a friend”.
That way she can respond. You can judge her response and then you can decide if she goes forward with in her life or if you drop her from your life.
I’m confused. You know she didn’t send it. She may not even know about it so why are you upset with her? You can’t hold her accountable for his actions.
But she didn't do it, you said her ex did? Why not approach him as opposed to her?
Ok ladies, I'm fairly sure the lady she is referring to is the ex that sent the message, not the old friend.
You know what I would do? I would name and shame that shit. Rub out your friends name and share what was written on face book letting everyone know who wrote it and exactly the kind of person she is. That stuff does not deserve privacy. What a low life pos.
Same, I would wipe her. I would consider posting the message to my page saying, well I just found this, I believe sent from A through Bs account. Might help you work through it and move on.