For people who have been through mental health struggles, what support did you receive from your partner? Was there ever moments when your partner just had enough of being empathetic?
I should note that I am struggling with some extreme lows lately and I am receiving professional help but I feel like my partner has got to a point where hes just had enough and is either ignoring me when I'm upset, of telling me to cut it out and I'm making the household miserable. I don't think me means it in a mean way, I think hes just had enough of me being a mess.
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Carer burnout is a genuine thing. Some people reach burnout faster than others and some people get to the point where they feel a bit hopeless themselves and like making a fuss over the person with the mental health disorder isn’t helping.
They start to emotionally switch off.
I’ve definitely reached this point in a former relationship. It’s not because I’m not an empathetic person, I just had a totally empty tank.
Carers need care too! It is the hardest gig in the world. Everyone is worrying about the sick person and nobody asks the carer if they need help or are struggling. And if they do, it's just platitudes. The enquirer doesn't take on any of the heavy lifting. Early days maybe, but when it's a chronic illness (physical or mental) people's attention moves elsewhere.
I am my mum's biggest cheer squad now. As the primary carer for my dad everyone wanted her to keep him at home. It was killing her. The improvement in her physical and mental health since he went into care (he doesn't even know he's there) has been significant. His health has improved too.
And as my husband's primary carer from a back injury for the past 5 years, I'm exhausted. The thought of doing this for the rest of my life... I can't... Without some improvement I will either crash and burn, or leave - and neither solves his problems...
I have an ADHD hubby, he gets anxiety.
Honestly he is hard.
I have known him 25 years, together 15 years.
I saw a specialist in ADHD to understand him.
At times I am exhausted, I need quiet time.
Dealing with him sometimes is like a wound up jack in the box
My ex husband used to dismiss it and get annoyed at me. My husband now is the most supportive wonderful man. I think it really depends on the person and how much they understand or want to understand. My husband made a real effort to educate himself and understand why I am the way I am
I have numerous family members with mental health troubles. Sometimes, I just can’t take anymore, sometimes I’m tired of the drama, sometimes I wish I didn’t have hold everything together all the time while they lay in bed unable to cope. I really don’t want to parent adult family members anymore. It’s really exhausting and emotionally draining. I really want healthy relationships, ones with give and take, ones where I come away feeling happy not feeling emotionally hungover and miserable. How do I maintain my relationships without feeling like I am just getting sucked dry of energy and happiness?