Not sure why I bothered to put up a post before as it seems kindness is a rarety these days. I ask you to please think about what you reply with.
Please think before commenting your words can make someone feel 10 times worse than they already do.
Please think before commenting your words can make someone feel 10 times worse than they already do.
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Are you the Mum wanting advice on husband complaining? I didn't comment but I saw it was full of the usual, its all your fault comments. The world has a way to go evening out our expectations of the sexes. Ignore them, its hard when its supposed to be a safe place to vent and get advice. You don't deserve to be treated like crap.
My post was a bit different to the one you have mentioned. So many comments are nasty/very unhelpful it's a shame 😕 we come here hoping for understanding or just a friendly ear not to feel like the scum of the earth.
Thanks for commenting though.
People on here give solution based answers, by looking at the past, where you've gone wrong and how you can fix things for the future. A lot of people aren't ready to take accountability for their situation or make the required changes, so they get offended. If you are looking for someone to lie and say there, there, nothing is your fault, keep going as you are, maybe put that in your post and we won't try to help you.
Look, i get what you're saying. I have seen some responses on here that have obviously been written in a deliberately savage way. While that kind of behaviouris 100 percent unacceptable, you need to remember that it says far more about the person leaving the nasty comment than the person asking for help/advice.
Having said that, sooo many people who post here with their issues only want validation and anything that deviates from that (such as a strong difference of opinion, constructive criticism or being presented with some uncomfortable realities of their situation) is interpreted as meaness or bullying. That I find quite frustrating.
I also think, when it comes to anonymous online forums, you kind of have to accept the nature of the beast and take the good with the bad. The internet is what it is, you absolutely cannot control what kind of responses you'll get but you can control what you post.
As an example, I went through a hell of a time at one stage. I wrote a whole novel and went to post it here but at the last moment I hesitated because I knew I was already feeling fragile and I knew that getting negative or dubious responses was not going to do anything good for my mental health. So I decided not to post it, I'm still glad I didn't. So sometimes a bit of self awareness is necessary.
Thank you for the reminder Anonymous.Â
It's Kelly here from The Imperfect Mum team and we do try to ban bullies so please send us a message with screen shots and we will try our best to make this a safet community.Â
I like the advice given here though. It is often a reflection on them, not you.Â
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Big hugs xKelly