Help!
Hi mums, please no judgement. A long story short, my now husband had a couple of one night stands with a woman weeks before we meet which resulted in her becoming pregnant. Even after this woman found out that he was with me now, she start smearing my name all over our small town. Being a mother myself I even offered to help her and give her money for nappies etc. Then the stalking started. Fake profiles, phone calls, texts, she even turned up to my house after telling the police she was going to drop her baby off at her father’s house. She turned up with a baseball bat. Anyway- it’s been through court and we were able to place a 5 year DVO out on this woman. My issue is she has breached this multiple times, I do have all of the evidence. Our local police offer has the attitude that all though she has breached the DVO, she hasn’t approached you. The DVO is up on Sunday. I am beside myself with worry because she had approached my children etc. iIt has been over 7 years of us going through this. I feel like as women, we should be raising each other up… I have tried every which way I can…. Please help…, any suggestions….
Stalking and DVO
Stalking and DVO
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Partner has an AVO against ex and she has broken it a few times just by being in the same place knowing we are there. It finishes in August. He got it because she was screaming abuse at him in front of their kids and it just got to the point of we were missing out on kids events just to save a scene which wasn't fair on him at all or the kids. She has improved heaps, he has let the breaches slide because he WANTS to be able to be at the same place with her as long as she doesn't cause a scene. That's the goal. Come August he won't be trying to renew it. If she has gone 5 years without causing any drama even with being close by then let it go. It would just be petty to continue it if its not needed.
So are you saying that you have both been at the same place but shes caused no drama? That sounds like a pretty positive sign to me, if you had never been in the same place, you would justly feel worried, as you wouldn't know how she would react. But you know she's been okay in the past. How did she approach your kids? Like were they playing with their sibling and she said hi? Need more info. But if she hasn't done anything crazy over the last 7 years, I would give her the benefit of the doubt. How do you arrange pick ups and drop offs of her child? Does your partner have an amicable co-parenting relationship with her? There's a lot missing in the post.
Go to court with the evidence you have and ask for the DVO to be extended.
If the police keep ignoring the breaches go over their heads.