Hello fellow Imperfect Mummies, so anyway, I have seen a lot of bad feedback about partners and tell you what, I am not immune to complaining about my partner. I have blamed him for so much crap in my life that he isn't responsible for and thought I was punching above my weight and not believing that he is in love with me ( I am overweight currently which I hate and it affects my confidence in a major way). We have had so many fights over stupid things and I feel bad because he constantly feels he has to prove himself to me, even though I feel I am not good enough for him. He has done so much for me and fell in love with me, even though I am far from perfect and yes I have been a bitch to him so many times, he has stuck around because he sees the good person in me. I love this amazing man so much and I just realised how amazing he actually is tonight...my youngest daughter, 8, is currently unwell, food poisoning it seems, and didn't quite make it to the toilet in time and vomited all over the toilet floor. My gorgeous man, who isn't their father by the way, nor does he have his own yet, mopped and cleaned up the vomit and saw that she was made comfy on the lounge. And it hit me then, that yes, he loves me..He doesn't buy me materialistic things, I've never received flowers, but he has done so many things for me and tells me I am beautiful even though I don't see it...Anyway sorry about the novel. If anyone has a loving bloke, share it....tonight I realised just how lucky I am.
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My man came home from work yesterday after working all week and made me a sandwich and gave me a massage because i was having a bad day. I asked him to do these things though as he is not a mind reader in what i want but he did them for me.
That's really good :)
Thank you for restoring hope. Because I wonder wether all men are abusive... or just cruel. I have only been surround by those types. I love hearing happy stories it makes me realize maybe.... one day someone will love me and I so agree. Materialistic stuff doesnt mean anything. I am currently receiving help for my abusive relationship. Thank you For sharing you probably have no idea But it makes me happy seeing women and children treated with respect. X
We have our problems like everyone else, but he is the best thing that has happened to me since the birth of my children. Please don't give up hope, yes there are amazing men out there, and the best thing about my bloke is that he loves me for me...You sound like a lovely woman, and trust me I didn't think I deserved such a lovely guy, but I realised that I do, and so do you.
Thank you. I am in abit of denial. Because things use to be so perfect. But thats part of the package with abuse. I agree relationships always go through hard times and sometimes it use to make me wonder if it was just that... unfortunately he is getting physical and I am suffering health wise so its not just hard. Its toxic. Now I just need to drag my heart out and keep trying to stay on track with my thoughts. To keep me strong. Thank you! I was in doubt a few days ago.... that I thought all men are just abusers. Thank you!! Tiny bit of a push that I could be happy one day. :) x
I just wanted to say there are some fabulous guys out there. My dad is definitely one of them, sure he isn't perfect but he is pretty awesome. Lucky for me I had him as a role model. It made it much easier to say no to the assholes that came along!
I haven't met my nice guy yet, but know they are out there. My sisters have all found fantastic guys.
I posted above.... if I ever date again! Hard to even think about it. I will be looking deeply into redflags. Best of luck.. I would hate to see anyone else go through this mess.x
My dad cheated on my mum a few times over many years. So I didn't think it possible to find a nice guy I could trust 100%. But I did. We've now been together 12 years and married for 6. So happy. He is amazing.