Hi Motherhood
I feel i need to vent this.
It seems there are way to many people going through domestic violence relationships and breakups around me, to the point i feel i cant express myself anymore and the love i have for my husband and children. Because someone else is going through a hard time and just post misrable things on Facebook more then half my friends list are either in crap relationships or just broken up or single. I don't want to post daily how much i love them and how great my husband is to me but i feel when i get that extra burst of love i feel bad abd hesitant in posting about it. We have brought our children up tohi love each other just as much as my husband and myself love each other.
We were together long long before we even planned on having kids and we love each other more now then 10 years ago.
I don't know if i even have a question i just feel that these days true love is not allowed to be shown in public because to many people don't share the healthy relationship that we do.
Anyone else feel this way.
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I think you should share your happiness. Why should you not share? Show your friends out there that there are good people and it is possible to have good relationships.
If you can't post about good things, get off Facebook because if my Facebook feed was all negative stuff I would start to feel overwhelmed and depressed.
Unconnecting from Facebook doesn't mean you can't support your friends but it does mean you can take a break, shut it out etc. the other thing I've done is unfollowed friends who were constantly posting negative stuff. That way I could just pop across to there Facebook page to check in, offer support etc, but wasn't being bombarded with negativity.
I've had very similar thoughts about my marriage and the one I struggled with was my kids.
I have a 5 and just 1yr old
Bothe were easy babies. I know how incredibly lucky I am to have an amazing husband and easy awesome kids.
I mentioned it on a forum awhile ago asking why we can't celebrate how good things are, I always feel I can't because I don't want to rub it in or upset people who are struggling.
The response I got was to please share the happy stories and good times. It gives people hope that they're not stuck in a never ending cycle and things can be good and life can get better.
I don't post often but it has made me more comfortable to share the love and great times
Absolutely post it!
But what I've learnt is that the people who post all the time (like daily or twice daily) about how happy they are, are usually the people who aren't happy at all. Its like they're trying to convince themselves
Painting pictures... Grasping at straws...
It's your life it's nothing about comparing to others. Nobody's probably comparing with you as much as you think. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors or what's about to hit them around the corner or in five years time. Dont feel so sad for those going through a breakup or single it's not the worst thing in the world.
Everybody's at a different point in life so I don't think anything you say about yourself has much bearing on anybody else.
I don't get it! I'm in a happy relationship, never felt the need to post about it. Just tell the person you are in the relationship with