DV Please leave!!

Hi mummas.
I need to talk about DV. Not the stuff we usually talk about but the down the track stuff. I've talked about the violence, I've talked about what he did to me, I've talked about what the kids saw and what we all went through after leaving.
I need to talk about years later. We've been gone for seven years. So many years for healing right? Wrong! My life has been forever changed by what happened and my children's lives have been forever affected.
People stay, telling themselves whatever they need to. When they finally leave the relief is immediate. Then u start to notice things.
U notice that u no longer trust anybody's motives. u notice that u don't have that joy of life u used to have and u are changed forever.
But u know what else u notice? Ur child doesn't laugh and enjoy life like other kids their age. Ur child is angry. Ur child is in pain.
The result of staying too long is so far reaching.
Trauma based anxiety.
Objectionable Defiant Disorders
Mood disorders
Attachment Disorders.
Children can suffer for their entire lives. Because we needed to keep trying. Because we loved him. Because "he's trying to change".
I beg of u. PLEASE leave! Your children need you to leave! Your children won't make it if you stay!
I know this because I forced my baby girl to go through hell for the first three years of her life, thinking I could "fix" him. Now I can't fix my baby.