I'm currently pregnant with my 3rd baby and I'll still be 29 when he/she is born. All my life I have wanted to have 3 children before I was 30 but I really didn't think it was going to happen after starting years later than I imagined I would have and having csections for each baby.
I was doing a quick google search, for no real reason, about having 3 kids under 30 and the first few links were forums of people saying how crazy it is to have any kids before 30 let alone multiple children... and how people who have children before 30 are boring because most will end up with no career or any fun in their lives.. that its unoriginal, immature, desperate for love, seeking a pleasantville existance and a wasted life being uneducated and completely consumed in their children instead of themselves.
I am just curious - how many people feel this way??
I know every person is different but I feel like it's complete bullshit.
I have higher education and am married, I have a career and the potential to extend my career is waiting on me (just based on the fact that I personally don't want to work full time again until my children are a little bit older). I have travelled both around our beautiful country and overseas multiple times with friends, family and my now husband but I feel you can really never travel too much so continue to do so with my family. I have had loads of experience in many life and work situations that I don't feel illequipped to handle myself or situations that arise... I am involved at home and do my best to be a great mother but I am also very aware of myself and how to keep me me...
My husband and I try to ensure we both are getting the lives we always dreamed of, that we both have time alone and together to keep happy, intimate and sane! And we are devoted to our children, our paid work and our volunteer work all at the same time. We haven't had ALL our dreams come true yet but we're slowly getting there and are doing it having fun. We are still so young and I love that feeling like we've accomplished so much but have many many years to experience everything we could possibly want to.
So again I'm just curious how people think of people who have children before 30? What are your thoughts about waiting til youre over 30?
Not a judgement post just pure curiosity cause it never occurred to me that my choices seemed so crazy to some..
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I think everyone should do whatever they want in their own lives whenever they want to do it! You shouldn't feel like you have to justify your life choices to anyone!
If you are in the position and are ready to have children then go for it!
My mother had myself and my siblings by the time she was 30 and now we are all grown up and she is now out enjoying herself traveling and doing a job she loves. Another friend did everything in there 20's and 30's and now feels as though she is too old to start having kids and regrets not settling down sooner. Pros and cons either way.
You sound as though you have your life pretty together and are happy so that is all that matters.
Honestly i don't care when someone has there children. It's a non issue to me.
The only thing holding me back from having all the things you have experienced is a small town and my pain in the arse ex who won't let me move with my child. I will be 33 this year and have my beautiful family. I haven't travelled much due to time restrictions in relation to visitation. I have another 8 years before my child becomes an adult and can make decisions until then it's same old thing day in day out! That being said I try to make the most of our time and create beautiful memories with my children. When the time comes we will be able to travel but by then all our children will be ready to start creating their own futures....
I had 5 children before I was 30. In fact I was 26 when I had my 5th.
I have a degree and an excellent well paying career.
There are benefits to having kids young.
I'm really enjoying life.
Don't worry about other people's opinions! It's what you make of it.
I'm 27 and have 3 (4 and almost 2 year old twins) pretty sure I'm done. I haven't done anything with my life except carry and raise (still raising) 3 wonderful kiddies. Have no clue what I could start looking at as a career in the next few years, absolutely no idea at all because I don't know ME if you know what I mean.... We rent and probably will for a very long time, money is tight as I can't work due to daycare being far too expensive and not at all worth it. I went from being a carefree 22 year old just rolling along in the world to a mum of 3 in 3 years. The first pregnancy wasn't planned, second one was, however, twins threw a spanner in the works lol. Meant that I couldn't go back to work as planned etc etc.
So there are parts that I agree with but at the same time if I knew what I wanted from my life in the future, there is no reason i couldn't be putting things in place now to get that future when circumstances are a little more forgiving