I can't even ...

Anonymous

I can't even ...

I'm not sure how but I'll give it a go

When I was younger , I lived with my mum and my younger sister , mum was single , dad was a heavy drug user. He's dead now
I've lately has feeling of " what if , what could have been "
I became extremely sexually active at a young age , really young , slept with near on every man or boy that moved. I was like the suburb bike. Everyone and anyone had a go and this was ok with me.

As life has gone on, I'm now a single mother myself , I'm very sure of myself , I know in my mind I am me and I'm educated and far smarter than most others and quite happy to tell others. At times I'm know I'm far to clever for my own good but can't help but tell everyone how perfect my life is, how perfect my children are , how far I've come since my ex husband left me , he could not stand my attitude
I understand , most of the time I'm an arrogant pig but can't help it.

What worries me most is my daughter is so much like me and only a young lady just out of school , that I'm hoping she doesn't follow my footsteps and do as I did , being honest I had sex with any man that moved .
What I'm asking is , was it my single mums strictness towards me and my sister that resulted in this and will my strictness cause my daughter to be the same ?? The local bike ??

No negatives please , I just need advice as to should i discuss this with her or let her work her way through life hoping she doesn't follow suit ??

TIA

Posted in:  Sisterhood Stories, Parenthood Guilt

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Anonymous

I don't think you're as ok as you say you are. To refer to yourself as the local bike. If you were born a boy and slept around as a young man would you be seen by the town this way? Would you see yourself this way? No. You said yourself you were ok with your actions. I think not having a male role model present can obviously lead young girls to look for more attention from men....obviously. Was this the case for you? Or did you just have a high sex drive at a young age? My parents were married and I had a very strong and positive father figure. Who told me he loved me, told me I was beautiful and a princess. He treated my mum like a queen and was home every night. I was still a "hussy"! My advice is make sure you are as present as possible, bring only positive men into your life be careful not who you trust with her. Have her in situations where she can see there are good men out there who treat her right. Men who will be nice to her and compliment her and support her without trying to molest or in future just get what THEY want. Teach her respect for herself. Teach her about choices and what it is she wants to do.

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Anonymous

I think there's a lot that goes into the whole scenario of an adolescents world that contributes to promiscuity. You're best to talk to a psychologist/ counsellor/ parenting expert to help you navigate the way if you're concerned.

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