Did dads get to cut umbilical cord prior to c section..my partner is father of all 4 of my babies and all have been c sections and he was not allowed to cut the cord for any of them. This kills him as it would have been a large bonding experience with each of the bubs. He has been left feeling as if there is no reason for him to be with me in there after seeing me take a turn for the worst with 3 of them he wasn't comfortable with being in the operating room when i had bub 4 last year.
I completely understand where he is coming from in that aspect. He is just so upset that even though it was on my birth plan witg all of them that i wanted partner to cut the cord, he was never allowed to do so.
I am pregnant with number 5 and is playing on both of our minds if this is the normal practice.
I guess im just asking if anyone has had the same thing happen. Dad not being able to cut the cord prior to c section please?
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My partner wasn't even allowed to be in with me when I had a c-section. He definitely didn't get to cut the cord.
My husband was able to cut the cord with my c section.
Him having skin to skin after the csection is a better boning experience than cutting the cord will ever be. (There's nothing special about it. My partner didn't feel automatically connected to our sons because he cut their cord).
A lot of hospitals don't do it for hygiene reasons. There just coving their backsides.
(Imagine if for whatever reason your husband had some sort of infection and coughed and got it on his gloves, then he grabbed the scissors and transmitted it to your wound and you got deathly ill.).
Really? It's a 'token' cutting - the cord is already cut. There are plenty of other ways to feel a connection - first nap, first bath, first hand print, first nappy change of a poop, etc etc
I had a planned c section last week and my husband sat with me and then when they pulled bubs out he went and cut the cord and helped swaddle him up. You can also request a male skin to skin session too!
I asked my partner if this was an important thing for him. He said "I just wanted you and the baby to be OK, nothing else really mattered".
Perhaps your hubby just needs to get some perspective here. In the grand scheme of things it's fairly insignificant.
I've had 3 sections and only the last which was planned for hubby get to cut the cord. Hubby had the bonding experience with all our kids he gave them their first bath.
Isn't safety more important? If for whatever reason they don't let you, I would trust their expert opinion. If he gets to, great, but if not, he can bond in so many other ways.
If hubby didn't go it would be cutting his nose of despite his face.
There are so many ways to bond with a baby. If he feels the entire experience is ruined because he didn't get to cut a cord he needs to re-examine his priorities.
Different hospitals will have different rules in regards to hygiene etc and you best bet is to ask your hospital and doctor about what the rules are.
The term is actually cutting your nose of TO SPITE your face. meaning don't be self destructive.. sorry not trying to be annoying .. I'd want corrected tho so that I say it right. So I figured why not. Lol. All love ❤
Two emergency csections for me.
Partner "cut" cord both times.
It's already cut though......... they get the baby out, cut Cord, take bub over to get checked, my partner goes with baby and cuts cord (again) and gets photos.
I'd expect it's too dangerous to have partner down below our curtain to cut the cord with everything going on with the actual operation. Hence the curtain and why he has to stay on that side of the curtain with me.
I think he's being a bit selfish about this. Cutting the cord is one part and he needs to accept things don't go to plan and they do what they do because they're medical professionals and you're in the middle of an operation. Sure if eres time and it's right they might let him but it's not guaranteed, same as anything in childbirth. But there is so much more to it. To say he sees no reason to go in then is just selfish and sad in my eyes. I hope he comes around and decides to be present at the BIRTH OF HIS BABY, or you choose someone that realises how magical it is and will be there to support you.
I think you have to take into consideration that you don't have easy c-sections. You are having c-sections for a reason and you've had some scary turns during the procedures, I think the doctors are far more concerned about keeping you and the baby alive so that hubby has an alive wife and child to continue to bond with.
My ex husband got to cut our child's cord. Putting myself in your partners shoes it is obviously important to him to cut the cord - even if it is just a "token cutting". Everyone is different and his wishes should be taken into account with the birth plan. Yes there are so many other ways to bond but putting myself in his shoes - this would be the first thing he does for his child and the only opportunity he gets to do so. There will be literally 10,000's of baths and nappy changes. For me it wouldn't be the same. Birth of bub's should be how you and he want it. Good luck.
Doctors will do there best to adhere to mum and dad's birth plan but at the end of the day a c section is major surgery and being c section#5 (if I read that correctly) that in itself makes the risk factor higher, they have procedures and protocols to follow. Their first and foremost priority is to the patients (ie. Mum and baby).
Yep, it was only 15 years ago where doctors would have said no more babies at all, due to having 3 c-sections.
Cutting the cord PRIOR to the operation?? I would consider sterilization!!! Are you stupid??
Geez mate, get a grip!
I think we all knew what the original poster meant.
What's the big deal with the cord cutting?
I think he needs to get over himself and just be there for his wife. He keeps putting these babies in there, he can bloody well be there when they come out
Ummm i think your over thinking the cutting the cord experience.... skin to skin contact would be the bonding experience your looking for.
The care of you and the baby is far more important than a mere cord cutting. And him being there is important, hes your support, hes not just there to cut the cord. Sorry honey but even though somethings on your birth plan, it cant always be followed for many reasons. Thats why ive never gotten too wrapped up in a birth plan.
Just to clarify, with all my babies my husband has only "trimmed" the cord. The midwife of OB has already cut it so baby is no longer attached to the placenta so they can place baby on my chest. Afterward my husband has trimmed the cord.