I don't know what to do. I'm in my 30s and pregnant to an ex boyfriend who's engaged. I've been single for 15 years and he offered to be my sperm donor. I desperately wanted a baby, and took him up on his offer as I felt time was running out. I want to have this baby on my own. I don't want to be in a relationship with him nor does he want to be with me.
He has children of his own and lives in another country. He is quite happy to watch from afar. The issue is I don't want anyone to know who the father is. How do I explain this to my friends and family without telling them? I'm financially set up, own my home etc. So having this baby on my own is a dream come true for me but how do I tell people without being judged?
Complicated sperm donation
Complicated sperm donation
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You don't tell them anything more than it's a sperm donor. That's all you say.
Just say it's a random sperm donor?
Sperm donor or if you cant lie about it say one night stand and hes either unknown or has agreed not to be involved so name will not be revealed.
If youll be telling the child you may as well tell your friends, if theyre friends they wont judge you.
Either say it was a sperm donor or a one night stand.
If it were a donor though, people might ask things like "where'd you go", "how much did it cost" etc.
where as if you say you went out clubbing etc, got really drunk and slept with a random, that is normally enough info. And you can say "I really don't remember much. It's all a blur".
"I am pregnant, I decided to use a sperm donor, everything that needs to be arranged with him has been, I won't disclose his name or details, if you have anything you'd like to say 'congratulations' would be the best place to start!"
If you're met with invasive questions about the how's and the why's that you don't feel comfortable answering simply say "I won't be going into details but thank you for your concern" or "That's not really your business". You'll probably be judged no matter what your situation but as long as you're happy with your decision who cares what they think!
First and foremost I'm hoping you will not get his name put on the birth certificate. I'd also looking into getting a legally binding contract written up for him to sign saying that he will do as he says he will do and parent from afar until which time the child is old enough or would like to meet him? If he's engaged, he's cheated on his current partner which is making be caution this persons morals and ethics. Obviously he can't be trusted after he's done this is what I'm trying to say.
First and foremost I'm hoping you will not get his name put on the birth certificate. I'd also looking into getting a legally binding contract written up for him to sign saying that he will do as he says he will do and parent from afar until which time the child is old enough or would like to meet him? If he's engaged, he's cheated on his current partner which is making be caution this persons morals and ethics. Obviously he can't be trusted after he's done this is what I'm trying to say.