Hey ladies don't know what my question is here but my heart is aching.. A couple of Months ago before returning to work part time after having 2 children who are 9 and 5 I asked my husband for another child. He was dead set against it. Fast forward 9 months and I thought I was pregnant after feeling off/ same symptoms as previous pregnancys. I did a pregnancy test which came back negative. Huge relief since only being at my job for 6 months. Problem is he has now said he would like another child after feeling the disappointment and heart ache of a negative test... He was looking forward to it if it was a positive test... I'm so angry at him now for doing this to me but I don't know what to do. I don't want to get pregnant this soon after starting work and an OK job that works for our family but I can't stop hating myself cos here is my chance for something I have wanted for ages
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Why not look at how long you need to beentitled to a year maternity leave, then do it and go backto work. I found part time with a one year old is enjoyable and youre already six months in it wont be long to wait, just some extra time to save and get ready.
Give it some time. Hubby could be having a short reaction and not want another in a few weeks. If you both want to try, go for it
Don't be mad at him. It might have taken this "scare" for him to realise he does want it. Use it as an opportunity for further discussion and to make a plan.
Don’t be mad at him. He has decided he wants what you wants m? Isn’t that what you wanted? It’s nice that you’ve gone back to work and have found yourself a little bit before considering a third. And probably nice for the bank account too.
So where to go from here, id check with your entitlements and work from there. You’ll have 7/8 months up your sleeve once you actually do fall pregnant so providing you can still work for that whole time, it should work out fine.