im not sure what i.m asking but im pregnant with our 5th baby and dont get me wrong im so happy for him or her to be earth side but i just cant bring my self to tell any one about the pregnancy part of me is because of judgemental comments an the other part is because i have friends who struggle with fertility so i kinda feel like im rubbimg my happiness in there face thank you for reading
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Make a Facebook post and let everyone know at once and be done with it. Tell family etc close first.
You aren’t rubbing it in the faces of those people, you are just considerate of them and their struggles. They would be happy for you, even though deep down it hurts and it’s a painful process, they wouldn’t want you hiding it because of them.
Your fertility and family is not something to rub in anyone's face. It just is what it is.
I would tell immediate family first, then friends who struggle with fertility issues in private, then everyone else.
I was a part of a fertility support group online.
We cheered everyone on but I had this one friend who was quite judgedy about a lady who has 4 kids,j ust lost a bub who was chronically ill and got pregnant with her rainbow baby. Her comment of "I couldn't have sex knowing I just lost my 6 month old..."
It was an awful thing to say and I won't forget it but there's those friends who will be genuinely excited for you no matter how many babies you have and those are your tribe.
Congratulations and please don't keep a lovely secret. 💗
Don’t tell them! I didn’t do an announcement, just told people face to face if I felt like it. It was so nice, no pressure, only real conversations with the people that are happy for you/supportive of you.