I've been experiencing peri menopause symptoms for a little while but the last couple of months things have really ramped up - specifically in the hormone area. I feel like peri menopause has taken the filter away and I'm expressing my real feelings for the first time in my life, instead of the 'good girl' persona we are expected to be. My confidence in myself is high, I finally know who I am and it feels great to not care about anyones expectations of how I should act/dress/look.
It's almost felt like a second puberty at times with surging hormones and I spoke with my husband about what's happening to me, and tried to explain it to him the best I could.
He has now told me he wants a divorce after 19yrs of marriage.
He said I haven't been fun for the last few months.
He said I've been angry.
This has absolutely shattered my heart. I know I'm changing (physically and emotionally) but I thought he would stand with me.
Do I seek out medication/therapies to settle the hormones and be the good girl he's been used to, or do I let him go and become the butterfly 🦋 I know I can be?
Perimenopause hormones
Perimenopause hormones
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It’s definitely worth a visit to the doctor for a checkup to make sure there’s nothing of concern going on. I was told a couple of years ago that it wasn’t worth testing my hormones because I was still having regular periods, so they probably won’t check your hormone levels unless you’re having infrequent periods.
Is it worth suggesting marriage counselling to your husband? He sounds petty if he wants a divorce because you’ve changed and are no longer the ‘good girl’ you once were. It would probably be a good idea to get counselling for yourself even if he won’t attend joint sessions, just to help you deal with everything and to be sure you haven’t gone to far in the ‘strong girl’ direction and become a horrible person to be around.