Ok soooooo..... I love hubby to pieces ! But who here likes to be poked in the bum or get their nipples pinched or hubby's nut sack hung in your face ect. Whilst you're for eg.bending over in the fridge , cooking dinner, cutting up vegies with a knife in hand mind you lol or being poked in the bum whilst your feeling a little under the weather .Is it just me that finds it sooooo not a turn on ? It seems like a constant battle in my house hold . I'm all for random gropping , cuddling , kissing ect . What are people's thoughts on Meaningless poking & prodding VS affectionate attention .
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Haha. It is so annoying. I can feel your pain as it is something I put up with daily! But when it doesn't happen I'm almost wondering what is wrong!
It is seriously annoying but I think I've gotten used to it. For my hubby it's how he shows his affection and how attractive he finds me. It doesn't really bother me much anymore as I've started poking him in the bum just to see if it annoys him (right in the crack with his pants on!!)...it doesn't though! Haha.
Lmao good reply, my DH also does this and I'm the same and worry if he stops, another good one instead of a poke is an ice cube down the 'plumbers crack' when they're bending down. Reaction is priceless lol
I would not be able to put up with this at all. It's disgusting and a total turn off. In fact if I'd told him to stop I'd call it sexual harassment if the behaviour continued. I have to ask when did it start? Because if a boyfriend was behaving this way towards me, and didn't stop he wouldn't have had the opportunity to become my husband. To me that would be totally unacceptable!
I've never had a partner behave in that way towards me, so I'm totally shocked that your husband behaves this way to you.
Are we married to the same guy??
My hubby does this, in all other ways he's perfect. I spoke to a friend about it who's a psychologist and marriage therapist, just a casual comment and she said that it's quite comment in men if they're comfortable enough with partner they do play around a lot like this and it doesn't mean it's sexual it's just a different form of affection and joking that women aren't used too.
That being said if your not comfortable with it then it's not ok at all but I've learnt to joke with it now and it doesn't bother me like it used too
my ex used to do this. and he is now a registered sex offender its an indication of no respect for personal boundaries. I am not saying your's will go so far as offend. but if they don't have respect and they have no boundaries how far will they go before they stop?
My partner does this but also gives me random cuddles in the kitchen too, even while cooking over the stove. I see it as a sign of his affection for me, in saying this he only does it when we are alone and never in front of ppl.
It did drive me a bit nuts at the start but i have warmed up to it and now i play along with it and pinch his bum when he's walking around naked or ice in the plumbers crack, pokes in the ribs when he is drinking water straight from the bottle.
He wouldn't go as far as dangling his balls over me as he knows I would flick him in the ball sack straight up for it (that to me is just taking it a little bit to far).
My partner and I are fairly affectionate and playful towards eachother when we are alone, and I relish in that knowing he just can't keep his hands off of me and that even in my pregnant state he still finds me attractive. We usually end up having cuddles, kisses or little dances in the kitchen or as we pass by each other in the hallway.
My suggestion would be if he does something that is uncomfortable for you, just pull him up straight away for it in a non aggressive manner.
Reading this made me feel like the husband lol I do this sort of stuff to my partner but he does it to. It's just the male way of saying I love you. My partner walks passed and grabs if no ones around and I honestly don't mind it. Different people different response I guess. Just tell him kindly that you find it annoying especially while you are trying to do something.
I showed my husband this forum.
He is shocking at it. So many arguments, so many I will stop.
I put up with it for a while but when enough is enough he deffinately knows.
I said to him see no one likes being poked and proded.
Typical man says "I must be normal, everyone elses husband does it"
Maybe onnnneeeee day....