Hi IMs, hopefully I can get both sides here and come to a decision sooner rather than later... I have a ds (5yrs) from a previous relationship who thankfully has my surname... am now pregnant with number 2 but dp and I can't decide on whose surname bellybub should have. I would prefer mine (i dont want ds to feel different or left out having a different surname) and once we are married and dp has formally adopted ds then we can all change our name together. DP understandably wants it to be his surname but it's a delicate subject which needs a resolution before Jan when this one is due.... please help!
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If you plan on getting married and changing all names anyway just let bubs have it now....save yourself some paperwork its 5 years before bubs will even be in school and different names be noticed
I would choose DP in this case. If you are all planning in changing names at a later date it seems odd not to go with what you plan to continue. That way you have two with one name and two with another.
Otherwise hyphenate the names.
Nope. Keep them.the same. Change them together or not At all. If you don't get married then.you'll have no.chance of changing it to be the same. If you're not married he cant expect.you to make that decision. Look what you said, 'thankfully has my name ' that's why. He.shouldve put a ring on it and he still can.
You're thinking smart. Doing it his way leaves you no.options to change to yours if it doesn't work out , whereas doing it yours does leave opportunity to change to his if it does.
agree with other ladies if you plan on getting married and adoption and changing names any way well if belly bub is given daddy's last name from the beginning you will only need to be changing your's and your son's