I find my self crying my self to sleep every night. Im alone all day most days and i cry then too, When ever i have the chance i just let it all out the pain the hurt. How do you get over heart break.
I left 8 months ago when i was 13 weeks pregnant to him, he was violent very violent controlling too. He tried to take my unborn child away from me every day he would tell me that i dont deserve her and that I will be the worst mother to my baby. I gave up everything for him to find out in the end he never loved me and he told me one day after he put me in hospital that he didnt want to be with me now, and he never did right from the start.
Four months after leaving he find someone else, she is wearing my engagement ring, they are going on the exact same dates he use to take me on when he was in a good mood. She is playing at the park with his daughter (not mine) and she is living in our house. Im not aloud to see his daughter any more and i miss her. But at the same time have so much resentment towards her because he never wanted our baby because he already had a daughter. I feel replaced, no i have been replaced. He has photos of her up on his facebook. He never posted any photos of me.. ever. And there isnt a single thing about our baby. Its like we never existed. He abused me broke my eye tried to kill our beautiful little girl and now he is with some one else who she says is the best thing to happen to her. Why is he treating her like this, loving, and me he beat to the grown littlery. Why was i so different, what is so different about this girl than me. His family always hated me made it so clear yet they seem to love her. Why is my daughter rejected over his other daughter what makes her so different. She is an innocent little 8 week old.
He always kept his first feonce's ring said he was going to turn the diamonds into ear rings for their daughter, but why do that for her and give away my ring why not turn them into something for our daughter? I always had a feeling that he didnt want to get rind of the ring because he was still holding onto her. And now i know that is true.
I have to face him in court next week for a final avo and i really dont think I have the strength to. I am just going to crumble with hurt and fear as soon as i see him.
How can he be so happy when he has never meet his daughter doesnt even know her birth date. And has court coming up in a few days? How can he just pretend we dont exist and not care he hurt me the way he did.
How do I make all this pain, heart break, replacement feeling and rejection go away?
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Because he's a completely screwed up dropkick, dangerous, son of a bitch to his core.
Go and get yourself some counseling, you need to move on, you need to understand him and that everything he's doing right now is still his game.
He's doing things just to burn you and to play you off each other, he's sucking her in with an over the top prince charming act, he'll do whatever he has to right now, but its all a game and the mask will come off once shes hooked.
You've dodged a bullet here, don't forget that for one moment. He won't change no matter what act he's putting on.
Keep moving forward, focus on yourself, finding yourself again, finding normal, and happy, I hope you're getting help.
He will do the exact same thing to this new woman that he did to you. Don't feel replaced, feel saved!!!!! Yes it looks like he is having a ball because that's what he Wants yob to see. It's part of the psychological abuse and another attempt from him to control you. But guess what, you don't really want him back tog just want him to treat you the way yuh deserved but he never will, not because there is something wrong with you, but because he is an awful awful man, and now he is PRETENDING to be nice to this new woman but it won't last he will bash her up, he will psychologically abuse her and if she gets pregnant guess what will happen to her.
If you haven't organised counselling, go to your GP as soon as you can so they can organise this.
When you go to court hold firm. You know you are doing the right thing, don't let him get away with his violent ways.
He wont change and its not different. He will do the absolute same to her! Please make sure yu are in therapy you need to process this and its going to be so extremely hard.you have been through sooo much. He is dangerous and has not changed. Research all about narcissism, sociopath, psychopath.
He is making you feel like the one with thw problem its absolutely normal. To everyone it looks like he is so amazing he has moved on. But really if he really loved you. He would be working on himself like you are. You are left shocked and confused.
All the best. Knowledge is your power and combine it with therapy or EMDR which is another therapy for PTSD. research about narcissism etc.... if you havnt yet
You have dodged a bullet big time! He's an oxygen stealer who doesn't deserve your pain and heartbreak.
I just wanted to let you know that when you go to court for the avo you don't have to see him. They have a separate area for the person claiming the avo (you) and you don't even go into the courtroom. At least that was my experience.
You are worth more than that scum. I am so sorry you're going through this :(
Hugs to you xx
He abused you so much and now your wanting him to have a relationship with your daughter. I would never never put my child in that sort of situation. His left over agression maybe taken out on your child. Personally i would seek some counseling, block him from your facebook and the new girlfriend and try and move on. I can completely understand the hurt you have for your child on his rejection of your child. But your child needs a healthy strong mum and obsessing over him and his new gf is not healthy. Please also.remeber if you had your daughter only 8wks ago your hormones will be all over the place still therefore you may still feel over emotional about everything.