I have a few kids by a few i mean a lot i look after them all and do what ever it takes to make sure they have everything they need but i get no help or respect from them or there dad my husband and i have had it. I make sure all there needs are met but still nothing my older kids think they are badly done by my younger kids are saying i am always cranky and dont want to do fun things. My husband has his own issues and i am tired and feeling like i am slipping back into depression i dont know what to do anymore i have lost me. I dont do anything for myself due to making sure all my kids are looked after and their needs are being met. I dont know what i want anymore i just need to know i am not alone
feeling lost and used.
feeling lost and used.
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Mental Health, Post Natal Depression, Anxiety & Depression, Behaviour
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I'll let you in on a secret. Kids don't get it, they never get it until they are parents themselves.
In the meantime stop and take some time for yourself. Go do something for you, wether that's a bath, or a walk around the block or give yourself a facial. What ever it is, do it.
We all need to fill our cup back up, other wise we have nothing to give our kids to drink.
Respect is taught and Daddy is teaching them how to treat you. Kids push boundaries but your fully grown adult husband should show you respect 100% of the time. You deserve to be shown respect and appreciation especially in your own home.
At bed time we do a little game where we tell each other 3 things we like about ourselves and three things we like about each other. It was a self-confidence thing for my daughter but I found it was a two way thing. A positive I got once was "I like that you burnt dinner (I am a below average cook) because we got to have breakfast for dinner" I was actually really quite upset about it and to hear that spin on it was such a relief.