First off i want to thank all the lovely ladies who stood up for me during my last post, thank you so much for your support and great comments.
NOW.. for the mums who think im trying to "PALM MY CHILD OFF WHEN IT GETS TOO HARD" this is not the case!! I love my daughter and would never "palm her off" I was trying to find a solution to my situation from some mum's who have experience because i feel like i have tried everything i could ever try i did not expect sit here and read over 300 nasty filthy comments about how much of a bad mother I'am and you know what shame on you girls!! Its called IMPERFECT MUM because NO ONE IS PERFECT!!
Every day I suffer from depression and stress induced anxeity (which I've just been diagnosed with after a medical condition and currently trying medication for this because i have no time to see a psychologist) I'am trying my best to jugle be there for my family (including step son) and working full time as staying home with them if not an option and my current position dosent not allow me to do any less than 43 hours a week. I do not get brakes or holidays and have 3 children every weekend!! I'am not trying to use these reasons for an excuse all I was trying to do is gain some positive advice from some more experienced mothers.
To reflect on my last post: MY DAUGHTER WANTS TO BE AT HER FATHERS SHE DOSEN'T WANT TO BE WITH ME, so what I was really asking is "should I let her go there more often?"
For everyone who wanted to know an outcome, her father and I have signed an agreement to share weekends so we will have her week on and week off untill she is in school so she can spend more time where she wants to be.
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Great work mum!
I commented on your original post, and I'll say practically the same thing here.
There is nothing wrong with having a father raise his child.
Sit everyone down - your ex, his partner, your partner, your child - and talk things through.
Only your family can decide what's best. Not a bunch of strangers online.
But keep in mind that she is four. Four year olds are meant to be trying (aren't all kids?)
Parenting is meant to be hard.
Less time with your child might do her wonders, or it could end up hurting her even more.
Is it possible to take a break from work, or find something part time in a different field?
Just because it sounds as though you've lost yourself along the way. Some time to take a breath might be a good idea to get everyone back on track.
I hope the new agreement works out better for all 3 of you :)
I'm so sorry people made u feel bad, I'm glad you where able to find a solution I really hope it works out well for all parties.