Libido issues

Help

I have been with my husband 13 years and married for 10. We have a wonderful daughter and both have very full on jobs. In the past 5 years I have had family heartache with losing my dad and in the past 3 years needed 2 lots of major spinal surgery that has put me in a depressed state.

I recently had my last surgery 6 weeks ago we have not been intimate in that time or for about a month before that. I have completely lost my libido and can't even stand him touching me. I know this is wearing thin with him and he is obviously not a fan of rejection.

I think in the last 5 years since having my daughter and all of my surgeries I have lost all of my libido and I have told him and he gets angry which I completely understand but It's like walking on egg shells

I have tried talking to him

Tried antidepressants

Tried seeing a therapist for myself

My question is how have you reignited the spark if you lost it?

How can you increase your libido?