Hi ladies,
I have just been diagnosed with a non viable pregnancy at 8 weeks. Baby is measuring at only 5w and 3days. Was measuring larger, but repeated scans is showing its shrinking. The little fetas however still has a heart beat ? I'm in struggle ville to be honest. Waiting to miscarry naturally, but the waiting and uncertainty is taking its toll emotionally & physically. Have any of you experienced the heartache of having a "non viable" pregnancy but the wee babe still has a heartbeat? How long does the process take of miscarriage? I can't find much useful info on the web. Usually a non viable pregnancy is diagnosed when heartbeat is no longer found! It's all just so devastating and confusing. Would love to hear some feedback of any other mummas that has gone through this. I hope I don't rehash old wounds for anyone. Much love xx
Non viable pregnancy at 8 weeks
Non viable pregnancy at 8 weeks
Posted in:
Loss & Grief, Pregnancy
11 Replies
Oh Hun! I feel for you. I don't have any answers. It could take weeks, it could take a month or two. Have they given you any alternatives other than waiting for it to just happen. The feeling of knowing that the baby is still alive but not viable is a terrible one.
Hello, thank you for taking the time to answer. No alternatives really then to repeat another ultrasound in a week. And just keep repeating them until no heartbeat is found. Then the option is too miscarry naturally or possibly take a pill to speed things up. Just killing me with the thought that it's dying and nothing can be done and it's just not passing away if you know what I mean? Feel in absolute limbo. A flicker of hope that maybe just maybe it will spring back. Unfortunately I've had so many scans that they can see the fetas slowing passing. This would be my fourth miscarriage. I understand the whole if it's meant to be, and I'm fortunate I have other children. Doesn't make it any easier! Thank you so much x
What a devastating situation for you to be in, I truly pray for a miracle for you and your family.
Many years ago a friend of mine went full term and delivered her 'non viable' baby. They met her, Christened her and said good by in the labour ward. Devastating. I have always thought she is one of the strongest women I know. To grow a baby is physically very obvious and everyone kept asking after her and my friend had no answers. People don't want to hear the truth when its just a casual 'how lovely you're pregnant, you must be excited' comment... She did go on to have 2 beautiful children who are now adults. My heart goes out to you too. Take care mumma xo
What a tragic situation!
Firstly, hugs and love to you. It's a pain and a hope no one can describe....
I've been there and it's hard.... in 2014 after years of being told we would never fall pregnant, I fell pregnant. We were over the moon. Unfortunately, it was a roller coaster ride..... We had many back and forth doctors appts with yes your pregnant no your not.... The emotional stress was unbearable.... People started asking if I was pregnant with all my missed days at work and being constantly sick.... But how could I answer that... Yes but no...
In the end I found an amazinng OBGYN. Who after months (given the time lapse between last period and all the waiting) it had been 5 months, I was still experience morning sickness and my belly was growing.... Just by that stage what had been a little bubba had disappeared.... no Bub or heart beat, it was all placenta...he offer to do a DNC.... It was the hardest thing but he taught me a few things which helped....
1. I could fall pregnant.... Maybe my past Drs got it wrong = HOPE
2. This is actually really common, approximately 1 in 8 women will experience this type of miscarriage, it just unfortunately a few that don't miscarry early = it's NORMAL
A non viable praganagcy is also know as "An anembryonic pregnancy or blighted ovum" horrible terms. You might have more luck researching that.
3. You are still a mumma = it doesn't not matter it you only carry you bubba in your belly for a month or a two or full term, YOU ARE A MUMMA, its silly that miscarriage is a taboo subject. I really wish it wasn't. After my experience I did go on to fall pregnant again and have a beautiful baby boy in 2015... Now when talking to mums I always talk about my first Bub too :D I still for cry it... It's still sad but the pain eases a little...
4. It's ok to grieve... Please seek help if you need to. And look after your partner. Unfortunately for me my partner experienced major depression after... We had a lot of other grief at the time too with the loss of my grandmother and his parents being diagnosed with cancer....
I'm not sure if my story will help you.... But please know you're not alone....
Please let me know if you want to keep talking now or in the future.... I'm happy to come back on here a chat at any stage you need support.... XXX
Thank you darling so much for responding. Biggest warmest hugs to you...
As of this morning my HGC levels have dropped, but not by much. I'm scheduled for another ultrasound next week but I think I need one today for my emotional sanity. I'm grieving I'm hurting, I'm at a stage where I want the little one to pass ? I can't bear the thought of it being in pain if it indeed feels anything. If no heart beat if detected then hopefully miscarriage will be soon. I can't keep going on having all the pregnancy symptoms and its dying, but slowing! And I can't go down the road of taking the pill or having a dnc if still a heartbeat. I'm just a mess to be honest! 5 months for you, I can't imagine the heartache you went through. Much love to you Mumma xxxx
I had a blighted ovum nearly 13 years ago, my first pregnancy. My cycle was irregular so wasn't sure of my dates, went for an ultrasound at what we thought was about 6 weeks only to be told that while I was definitely pregnant (had an amniotic sac) there was nothing there which usually means less than 5 weeks. Had to go back 2 weeks later for another scan. Sac was bigger but still nothing inside. Told to go back to my doctor to find out what to do next. I already had an appointment with an obstetrician for the following month (previous health issues that meant I had to see a specialist from quite early in any pregnancies) and was able to get in to see him late morning and had a d&c by lunchtime. I could have left it and miscarried naturally but was advised that there was a chance of incomplete miscarriage and would end up needing a d&c anyway.
My advice if you do miscarry is to allow yourself to grieve. I didn't, I got on with life as normal and started trying again quite quickly. I ended up with pnd after the birth of my son 16 months later and through discussions with a psychologist was able to link some of my feelings back to not grieving the loss of my first pregnancy.
I believe things happen for a reason and you only get what you are strong enough to cope with. Looking back now after nearly 13 years, I that pregnancy wasn't viable so that I could have my now 11 1/2 year old son.
I haven't had the exact same thing. But what I do know is a heartbeat is life. I couldn't I wouldn't give up knowing that.
Doctors don't know all, no one can give a 100% answer as to what's going to happen. No one knows! I've had friends go on to have healthy babies after doctors found NO heart beat for 5 months!
there aren't really words to help you through this. Just trust yourself. If you don't want a procedure to remove that heartbeat wether it be viable or not then you don't have to. Do what you think is right for YOU.
Much love Hun I'm sorry I can't really help. I am sending lots of virtual hugs and wine (non alcoholic for the time being) ❤️
Hi, in April I had to deal with exact this :(
It took me a week before my levels dropped low enough that I started bleeding.
Each day they get lower and lower.
You need to see a doctor and have them do a blood test tomorrow and then 2 days later and 2 days later etc.
I found the waiting for it to Happen naturally so horrid as each day you never know.
Better for my body however I'm now 23 weeks I fell pregnant 6 weeks.
Goodluck Hun it's a horrid experience
Thank you all for responding. I have gained some strength for all the well wishes. I feel the love, thank you ladies! had an ultrasound today it showed no fetal heartbeat. It also showed a large haemorrhage. For the meantime I'll try and miscarry naturally at home. Allow myself the motions of grieving and so forth. prepare myself mind and body and letting go of my little babe. Warmest hugs to you all xoxo