Ive recently become a widow.
Im 32. I have a four year old.
My husband committed suicide.
I guess im wanting to reach out to anyone that has been in a similar situation. Most widows are a little older without young children.
Id also like to encourage anyone that has a loved one or is themselves struggling with mental health issues go and seek help, if you need medication take it and not struggle alone or be ashamed to reach out when they need it
You are loved.
You will be missed.
You are worth it.
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I am so very sorry for your loss. I have no advice but wanted to send my condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss xxxx
Not me, but it happened to a girl I went to school with. About 6 years ago, she would have been under 30, little kids age 4 and 2 at the time. She's doing very well now. I would offer to ask her to talk to you, if you like?
I am living this. I don't know when I will find the father of my children dead. He has so many plans that trying to stop it is pointless. I called an ambulance for the first time in our 18years the other month. Hoping it would finally get him the help I can't give. They held him for the night them let him go with him promising to see a gp. Talking to a gp, counsellor and psychologist being passed off and effectively told to man up and get on with it is another blow.
I can only offer you a hug and peace
My partner committed suicide when I was in my early 30's and our daughter was 2 , it was the hardest time of my life ! But you know what ........ when I came out the other side of it , I'm strong , I'm independent , I'm fierce , and wouldn't be who I am today if I hadn't been through this , don't let this break you , it won't happen overnight or even a year from now , but you will be a survivor and your child will have an amazing mum to look up to and rely on as she grows x
So sorry for your loss. I was widowed at 19 with a 3 month old son. So i feel your pain. My partner went to sleep and never woke up, he was only 23. It was so unexpected and was cruel to have to go through. Just know you have support, family, friends. And your child will help you through each day. Dont be affraid to grieve, and allow a lot of time for it, at first i felt numb, like i couldnt feel anything at all. And then all of a sudden it hit me. Dont be affraid to seek professional help, help in any form, it doesnt mean you're weak it means you're stronger than most to be able to stand up and ask for it. Allow yourself to hurt, to cry (the shower caught a lot of my tears) i know this sounds crazy but allow yourself to become at peace with what has happened, and always remember you have so much support around you. Lots of love to you mumma.
Hi, I am 39, was widowed at 37, my kids were 3 and 2 at the time. There are a few Facebook groups which are good. One is Young Widows and Widowers Australia. Lots of support and people in the same situation.