Hi there,
I was the lady who posted some months ago about having a miscarriage. Really wanted to thank all of the beautiful women for the kind words and support. It's has been pretty difficult. I want to send all my love and condolences to those ladies out there who have been through the loss of a child. Thank you for sharing your stories.
My question is.. trying to conceive again. There's this hole in my heart, and I obviously really want to have another child. My husband does, my daughter is constantly saying "I want a baby sister mum". But its not really happening. It's only been 4 cycles since I had my D&C but I just haven't fallen as quickly as I had previously. It's kind of worrying me. What's "normal"? Because I've asked my doctor, all hormones and everything is fine, I've been trying to figure out how to track ovulation, yet to try the kits? Has anyone got any advice or tips on not stressing when I do fall pregnant the whole time?
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Oh hugs, there would be a hole in your heart. Miscarriages occur for so many reasons (a majority unexplained but just know the baby wouldn't have had a great quality of life if the pregnancy progressed so was terminated by your body).
Normal is anywhere up until 12 months - just remember your starting over again. TTC is a hard journey, waking up every morning and taking your BBT, peeing on ovulation sticks, entering data into apps. I found I got so deep and involved with wanting a baby that I forgot to enjoy it and sex was just a chore for both of us. We were having it all the time, going to fertility clinics and so on. And then I just told myself no more - I was pushing my body too much and I was mentally struggling. So, we went on a holiday and relaxed. We didn't pressure ourselves, we hardly had sex, and then we came back to a surprising positive test. All along, so many people (including doctors) said "just relax, it'll happen in time" .. and as much as I didn't believe them, relaxing and enjoying ourselves worked!
My recommendation is not getting too caught up in it all, sure take some OPKs to check when you are ovulating, but don't get so fanatic on them. I recommend the stick it in your urine type, I found the digitals so unreliable and expensive. I got mine in bulk online but eventually was able to pinpoint when I should be ovulating.
We ended up having sex a few days after my period, then a few days before ovulation, day of ovulation, a few days after and so on. The time we successfully conceived we would have only had sex on the day of ovulation and no other times in the lead up.
Good luck <3 <3
It took my hubby and I 4 cycles after our miscarriage... We now have our second child, so our family is complete. Try "maybe baby", you buy it from the chemist and it tracks ovulation through saliva. Sending hugs and hopes...
It took my hubby and I 4 cycles after our miscarriage... We now have our second child, so our family is complete. Try "maybe baby", you buy it from the chemist and it tracks ovulation through saliva. Sending hugs and hopes...
Try using the first response lube stuff too - the only month we used it we had success! Inserted via an applicator and helps the sperm to travel up safely.