Okay everyone,
I know all situations are different but I just need to state that I do not wish to hear about equal rights, co parenting or trying to make it work between the parties. My situation is already being handled within the court although, I am currently trying to prepare some court orders (family court) and was wondering if anyone had any suggestions as to what to add. We have basically everything concerning the child including living arrangements, visitation periods and phone contact sorted within the court although i am trying to consider the things that aren't talked about in court such as having no contact between parties unless it is regarding the child. Things to protect myself and prevent unnecessary arguments between the parties.
Court Order Additions/Suggestions
Court Order Additions/Suggestions
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What about sports/hobbies/interest you child/children may have. Who takes them,who pays for it etc
Would it be worth adding that with a child under 5? Said Child currently isn't engaged in anything due to conflict of interest.
My sister included a method of communication. Communication was to be through email only, as her ex was always sending nasty text messages. For some reason even though email is just as easily accessible these days, he wasn't as fluent at it, and his emails were more polite, I think because he didn't just fire off emails in a bad moment. It seems to have been very effective although her exes lawyer tried to argue against it in court, the judge saw what my sister was trying to achieve and sided with my sister.
The judge was also saying there is a computer program you can use for communication where it won't allow abusive messages or terms to be used. So a DV victim won't be able to be abused or triggered by an ex.
Thank you for your feedback!
I have included that the only contact to be had through text or email is to be strictly only if there is an urgency or emergency regarding the child. If it is not urgent, use the commutations diary. I also added that during phone calls between each party and the child, neither parent can address each other.
The good news for my sister was that having these steps in place broke an unhealthy cycle for her and her ex.
I used the template for a parenting plan from Relationships Australia, we didn't need court thank goodness but it was still a stressful time. I tweeked it to be personal for each of my 3 kids, and was very specific and detailed. My kids have special needs so having structure and routine is essential (for us all!)