3 weeks ago today I lost someone who was not only my neighbour but was someone very close to me . Her partner had messaged me from his work asking if I had seen her and if I would go check on her . I did my friend had passed away . Making that call to let him know was absolutely hands down the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my 43 years of life . Tomorrow she would of turned 28 today as for the past few weeks I am struggling and I am angry ...Body shaming needs to stop my beautiful friend had been suffering Anorexia for the past 15 years of her life . She was a beautiful woman inside and out she just couldn't see it . She was loyal , generous, kind , trustworthy everything a friend should be . Anorexia is a mental illness and really is not about vainity but all the body shamming that goes on in our society does not help .. Her body could no longer take it and gave up mentally every single day was a up hill battle ... 28 is to young to die . I guess I am writting this to get my feelings out and hope that if your reading this remember to be kind ,let the people around you know you love them, stop being judgemental, help boost someone up ..I don't want sorry or condolences. I want to be sitting here tomorrow with my beautiful celebrating her 28th birthday but that is not going to happen . I want to go to sleep at night and not see her the way I did when I found her for now that is not going to happen ...But what can happen is for people to be nice leave the judgement behind because unless you walk in their shoes you have no idea the battles and demons they are fighting with every single second of every single day open your hearts in the blink of a eye your whole world can change
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I agree. I was very tiny but ate a a lot. Every single day when I ordered "healthy" foods or ate " healthier" options due to stomach sensitivity. I would get told how I need a burger, to get some meat on my bones, stop dieting. Every day told how disgusting I looked. I ended up obese after children and then the eat less, you are fat comments started. It's rubbish the way people carry on about others bodies as if it somehow has a play in their life:( I was lucky that I didn't care about their opinions as it's horrid the way strangers carry on