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I have 16 year old step child and I have told them to stop smoking pot. But keep doing it because they said helps them relax.
The parent living with me knows does nothing.
I have just found two bong in there room and I'm just over it. Threaten to tell everyone but they know I won't tell because I will get in trouble. They have no respect from me because I continue to tell them off about it. I know everyone does it but I have small children. What do I do?
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You kick the parent and the teen out. TODAY. You have children in your house and your first priority is to them.
And no, not everyone does it. In fact vast majority of people don't do it!
If one of your children finds the stash your child can get very very sick from it.
If parwnt doesnt care and doesnt care what you dont want in your house, nagging wont make a difference. Time to put up or move on.
Um, tell the other parent? Regardless if you’re getting into “trouble” about it. If the other parent wants to crack up a stink about it, then kick them both out. It’s disgusting and filthy and there is no way in hell I’d allow that in my house around small children. At all.
If I were in this situation I would either leave with my children or step son and his parent would be out on their asses unless they were willing to address this issue. Your children do not deserve to be exposed to people who're abusing drugs. Period.
The boys parent is failing their son by allowing him to self medicate, it sounds like he needs some phsycological help.
Just be prepared that you're going to get some unhelpful and dumb AF responses here, I hope they don't make you question yourself because you are more than justified in being fed up.
So should i remove the items from the house or should that be bio parent. One of children has mention they smoke stuff and when confronted the child denied it. But admit they take it to relax. If one of my children doing this I would go crazy, can I take control of this.
First off remember this is a 16 year old child. Peer pressure is rife these days and back when I was 16 I was smoking it ocassionally. But I didn't leave my stash where people would find it and I definitely didn't have a bong. Hiding it from the other parent was wrong but now you need to step up admit you were wrong for not telling them when you first found out and tell them that they need to ensure that the child stops bringing it home. If they can't ensure the child won't bring it home it's time to take the kid to rehab organise drug counselling etc and work on it. Send child to live with their mother if it's an option if you cannot handle it. Ground them if you have to etc stop them from hanging out with their mates I guarantee that's where the influence is coming from. All in all kicking a teen out just because they smoke pot isn't the only thing you can do there are other options. Pot is only a gateway drug if you allow it to be. I smoked pot for years worked a good job and didn't turn to any other drugs in the whole time I used it.
The way I read it is that the step sons parent is aware but does nothing about their child's drug use, not that the OP has kept it from them.
The bio parent lives in the house and refuses to back up step mum.
Game over
Step mum here should I remove the bongs? It's our right is it since our house my partner has agreed now after length talk.
Of course you should remove them!
Honestly I wouldnt, youre still just interfering, it has to come from his parent.
I don’t feel uncomfortable having a 16 year old doing it IN THE HOUSE.
I can’t wait any longer it feels like I’m accepting this habit of person this age. When I was there age I didn’t do it in the house I did it esle where.