So i started my 3 nearly 4 year old daughter at a early learning child centre its also a before school after school care shes been there 9 days and within those nine days shes had sand thrown at her and been pushed around by the after school kids... then i witnessed one of the teachers at the school yelling at this little boy to pull his pants up then walked the little boy threw the playground into another door.. that same day i get my daughter home and shes poo'd herself (she has never done this before) i assume its because of this teacher who had the class this particular day as her normal teacher was away.. then just on friday i got to the centre to pick my daughter up and i could hear screaming i run outside and my daughters been slapped across the face by another little boy in the centre teacher 1 is holding the little boy that has slapped my daughter and comforting him and my daughter is standing there screaming in pain no one is comforting her teacher 2 approaches me telling me she just got a littlr slap on the face and shes fine.. i can see a solid bright red hand print on her face and she is hysterical teacher 2 days wheres the office lady to teacher 1 and teacher 1 replys to teacher 2 saying shes not here today then teacher 2 says well what am i ment to do with him.... i then grab my daughyer go bak into the class room teacher 1 follows me and asks is she ok?i respond by saying she's obviously not fine there's a weltmarke on the side of her face and she's very upset and won't stop crying now I'm unsure whether I should send her back there or not as I don't work and I only put her in care so she can be around kids her own age
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Pull her out and lodge complaints!!
Find another care centre.
Nope move her. Seems chaotic thats not a good environment for a littlie you will find better.
I always say if you’re not happy with your childcare provider to try elsewhere... you need to be happy leaving your child there :-) Given the right daycare it is so important for them to learn to interact with others (peers and new care providers). I’d look around and go with your gut when it comes to making the choice :-)
Take photos lodge a complaint and find a new centre.
The pooing sometimes will happen in a new environment and the sand I could get past. The slap incident, I could not get past at all.
Trust your mother instincts...you have written this so you obviously dont feel ok with it.
Take her out.
These incidents themselves do happen in all centres (the sand throwing, hitting, toileting accidents etc) but it's the way the staff deals with these issues that makes the difference between a good and bad centre.
The staff at your centre don't seem to have a lot of control, the overall running of the place seems chaotic.
I'd move her!
Also, I don't know many centres that would have the after school & pre school kids mixing together? It doesn't sound like a pleasant environment 😟
I agree with this. You might find this in all centres but it could definitely be handled better by the carers.
Sounds like your lil girl is an easy target because she’s new, poor poppet.
If you are just sending her to socialise with peers, why don't you do activities like playgroups, music groups, library reading sessions, playing at the park etc.? There are other ways to help her interact rather than sending her to childcare. I had to send mine to childcare due to working and I hated doing it, it's such a depressing place, it's not like they do amazing programs or anything, I know they do a few educational things, but it is limited and it's certainly not kindy. If I could of, I would have avoided them like the plague. Most working mums I knew hated sending their kids too, many of us have had a few tears in the car park or as we drive off. Just pooing herself would have been enough for me, why cause her stress if you don't have to? I say keep them home as long as you can. This is only my opinion as you said your specific reason was to get her socialising.
They are also full of illness, my son was on and off sick for the first six months.
No fucking way!!! You don’t work? Then don’t bloody send her to these incompetent uncaring dickheads! What social skills is she learning, how much fun is she having? The poor kid is being traumatized!! Take her to activities yourself, go to a park, have a play date...
That’s a crap daycare imo, if you feel uncertain then take her out! There are plenty of other great centres around... you may need to try a few before you find the right fit. I’ve had my daughter in about 7 different centres before I found one I was happy with.
Early childhood education is fantastic, playgroups are no where near the same thing... Try somewhere else until you find somewhere you absolutely love. You and your child both need to be happy with where you’re sending them.
Having said that, kids get hurt sometimes... I see it as a great opportunity for BOTH children to learn. Learn empathy, compassion, how to apologise, how it feels when someone hurts you, forgiveness, regulating their emotions and how to communicate better next time. An opportunity was missed here, next time take it upon yourself to mediate the situation if no one else will!