Our family recently received some pretty devastating news. My de facto is facing a major operation in 2 days time and I'm just so overwhelmed. I have a 6yo and a newborn. People keep saying "let me know if I can do anything" but its more like an expected thing to say. I kinda wish people wouldn't ask but just DO. I don't know how to put into words something like "could you drop off a dinner or two as I haven't even had a chance to make breakfast for a week?". That's all I want - some dinners to get us through the next little bit. I feel so hopeless that as a mum, I cant provide basics for my child because I'm too busy and lost at the moment.
How do you ask for help?
How do you ask for help?
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Speak up and ask honey. Don't feel shame in asking for help. People around you I am sure would be happy to, maybe they just don't want to intrude on you or maybe they think you already have people to help. Just call and say hey I appreciate you offering to help where you can, I actually really need a hand with a few things if you have any spare time in the week to stop past with a bite to eat etc. good luck
You can't expect people to just do what you want...they aren't mind readers. Just tell them what you want, I'm sure they would be happy to help. Just say "I would love it if you could bring over some dinner as I have barely had a chance to make breakfast so that would be a huge help"
You just say. It's so hard, I get it, been there. But you just say it! People generally don't know what you need and really want to help.
If someone asked me to cook some meals/clean there house/do pet care etc I'd easily say yes.
You will have your chance to return the favour at some point in your life. Trust me!
Just ring or text and say thank you so Much for offering I would like to take you up on it. Could you please.... It would be such a great help. I have offered to help to lots of people but never want to intrude. People font know your schedule or what you need so just ask. I would want people to day what they need if they need it.
Say it to them. Let people know. noonknows if youre taken carw of or what you need, when I say that i really mean it. Ask me to cook dinner, do a shop, pickup kids, babysit.
Write a list of things you need ppl to do to help then when they offer say here's a list of things I need help with PLS feel free to put ur name next to one or two. That way you don't feel over whelmed in asking for help it's there and they can just read it and do whats needed. Or even a Facebook group chat with family and friends so u can post on their updates and things u need help with
This year at our school one of the parents got very sick and had to spend a lot of time at the hospital. The school reached out and asked families to make meals for this family to help them out.
Maybe reach out to the school?
Reach out to your friends and family and ask. There is no shame in saying "actually I do need something".
All the best to your family xx