Hi, im feeling really down and have hit on hard times with relationship and finacially. Iv suffered depression for many years. I have 2 kids. I was happy with 1 and i always had a thing even when i was pregnant with #2 that i couldn't deal with it, i still feel this way and have so much guilt. All family is interstate and i have no friemds for support, Their dad is no where near helpful or even trys to see where im comong from. We have had a troubled releationship from the begining. I cant seem to help feel that i wish i just had the one and leaving would be a little easier. I love both my kids deeply and id do anything for both. I cant seem to get the strength and courage to leave. I dont gave savings for get my own place, iv declared bankruptcy and feel this wil hinder my chances at a rental. I feel bad coz i do leave i have to cancel a sport for my son to even try make ends meet. I have done calculations and with pension and ftb im still in a minus situation. I dont no what to do im stuck. Anyone have any suggestions? No judgemental comments plz.
Please dont judge, after some suggestions abd encouragement.
Please dont judge, after some suggestions abd encouragement.
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Relationships & Marriage, Mental Health, Parenthood Guilt
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In my experience, when we are stressed, depressed, burdened, exhausted, struggling, we take all of those issues and roll it into one feeling of being a shit parent. So the kids get the blame but they're very rarely the actual problem. If you sorted out your depression, your relationship, your finances, your feeling of no escape, (they're probably all highly linked to your shitty relationship) then you will thrive with two kids.
Sorting it out can be rough and stressful, but once you're set up as a single mum of 2 you will be financially fine. Missing a season of sport isn't even on the radar of important points right now, you will find activities for your children to do.
Go and see a counsellor, mental health makes us think some pretty unhelpful things when we're down.
Being bankrupt won’t affect your rental history hun .... I’ve never had any trouble renting a place! Xx