Hi please bare with me as this maybe triggering for you please feel free to not read on but this is my life and i need some advice and really would appreciate any support or help i can get.
I need to ask how can i make my kids disclose to a counsellor? THEY ARE SEEING ONE for witnessing domestic violence and i want them to be able to talk to someone.
Something is going on i just know it and i am so worried without them saying anything. I just can't protect them. I feel helpless and i need them to talk. Its killing me.
We left a dv relationship. I dont know who to suspect but my children are showing signs of being interfered with but they wont talk.
My son is interfering with his sister- she has nightmares almost every night. She is traumatised and i feel i have enough information verbally to know that this is going on and try my best to watch them all the time and have them seperated.
They see their dad fortnightly i cant say anything to him as i am scared to alert him incase its him or someone else. I am petrified if it is and he finds out then more my kids may have to deal with and potential threats. So i need to seek help and keep it quiet from him i feel.
He sexually abused me. I hope he wouldnt do that. But my kids are showing signs so i need to address this. My son seems to be where i need to look for answers as i feel he is doing things to his sister for a reason and showing behaviours that are not ok.
Wont go into details. I just cant sit here and wait for them to talk. I want to help them. Its hurting me.
Advice???
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I have no experience, but maybe a call to bravehearts could help you navigate this? Sending you love and light at this traumatic and devastating time ❤️
You need to speak with police / lawyers. If you encourage your kids to speak up and it's considered that you have put words in their mouth, or they are saying what they think you want them to say, it will be useless.
I am careful with what i say. For this reason and why i have them seeing someone. Its just so difficult.
Can you tell the person you are seeing your suspicions? Are you seeing a professional, highly qualified or just a counsellor? I would seek someone who specialises in this field, you need the best on your side. Counsellors can’t deal with something as complex as this. Maybe the police could put you into contact with someone’s have their own person, start making calls to them and bravehearts, get a highly qualified person.
You need to protect your daughter from your son!!!
My son interfered with his sister ONCE and I reported it, it was hell and shook the family up like I could never imagine, but it had to be done to protect her
You can't let this continue!!!!!!!!
And yes, I wondered if anything had happened to him first, but no, it hadn't, he's since been diagnosed with bipolar and medicated, and it's never happened again
Please please please help your daughter!!!
Contact child services about your concerns. If your not confortable doing that do they go to school can you talk to the teacher or chaplain about your concerns
***** son is 8years old and daughter is 5yo for those asking ****
My children were 7 and 5 when they made very adult porn videos. I found a video and photos they made that did include my son doing inappropriate things to his sister. I had shared custody at that time with my ex. I took the video to police and they also contacted child services. The result is my kids only have supervised visits with there father. Specialist counselling for the kids. Although my son has refused to talk due to shame my daughter has finally given something. Still 2 years later we still dont know the story but child services ccontinue to act to protect the kids. I still ensure the kids are not left alone together. So for your kids if no court orders dont send them. Get legal advice contact police , child services and get help for you as well