I’m asking for advice not to be ridiculed or told that I should count myself lucky etc. I’m genuinely starting to worry a little bit. I have 3 children, all planned. I fell pregnant with all 3 straight away, start trying and no period from then on, positive pregnancy tests within 3-4 weeks. My last birth was traumatic and was also 12 weeks early. My partner and I are trying again. I obviously am quite fertile, and it’s not a huge gap either. My issue is, I have not fallen pregnant in the first month like usual. I’m obviously not going to go to the doctor and demand answers but it is quite strange for me. I’m not impatient to fall pregnant but a little concerned considering my last birth and now we are struggling, not struggling as such but I’m not used to this at all. I know it’s normal for people to try for months and months and there be nothing wrong. But should I be concerned at all considering I’ve normally fallen pregnant straight away? I’m sorry if this is eye rolling or offensive to people who are struggling to conceive but I am genuinely concerned. Thankyou.
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I think when something doesn’t happen the way it normally would it always makes you wonder.
It’s probanly nothing, but you don’t say your age. It does generally get a bit harder as we get older..
While waiting for things to happen or not happen I’d make sure my Pap smear was up to date etc.
I fell pregnant with my first 2 really fast. My third took about 2 years after being on the depo for 2 years. My 4th took even longer even though i hadnt been on anything, and fell when I started to be more careful with eating and exercising. There are many factors like age, diet and lifestyle, any contreceptives you have come off.
Have you been using ovulation kits? You are probably just having sex at the wrong times.
Put the first 3 down to luck and chance, as each month even if you do it at the correct time you still only have a 25% chance of conceiving (and that is each and every month). I think we get a falsified ideology that if we do it all correctly it will happen, but there's so many factors.
If you've just come off of the pill you potentially aren't even correctly ovulating yet.
Try and stay calm and just let it happen in time - don't add stress into the equation yet because it's completely normal.
I totally get the feeling of why is it not happening though - I've been there done that and it isn't a nice feeling.
Maybe you're not having sex as often as you did the last times? Maybe you're stressing out? It really is a non issue. I have fallen pregnant 10 times, I would say half of them I fell very easily and the other half it took a few cycles. It's not a given that you will fall pregnant straight away just because you have before. It really does come down to luck.
My two I fell pregnant very easily and on contraception. I haven’t used contraception for 5years now and haven’t fallen pregnant. We are not trying but not being careful. I am
Pretty sure I have endo.