Hi, a friend of mine has recently had her fourth child, her third to the same man.
They are not in a relationship but do see each other often at least 2 times a week as he is involved in his Children's lives and obviously there has been a couple of times he's stayed over late after a few wines and oops.
I've known her 8 years and I know she's not with this man and has only slept with him a handful of times so he's not even a "booty call"
He pays his child support but that's as far as he goes when it comes to money.
She is on a single parent pension and
Centrelink has asked her to fill out a form to prove she's single which is fair enough!
There is a section that needs to be filled out by a referee.
She's asked me if I would and I have no issue doing it because I know she's being honest, I've known her 8 years and visit her often, our kids go to school together etc bit hard to hide man!
The issue is I don't know what to say in the section that asks me why I believe her to be single.
I want to just write "well she's slept with him a handful of times over the years but has no desire for a relationship of any nature not even a sexual one, mistakes and wine fuelled one nighters happen!"
But I don't know how appropriate that is even though it's true.
Anyone had to do this before?
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You said you believe shes single because she runs her own household and is not in a relationship with anyone.
Personally I'd be very wary of putting my name on that form though considering the situation. Just remember youre signing a legal statement and document.
"I know she is single as there has only been breif casual encounters with the father of her child/ren, they have never been in a romantic relationship together, nor have they ever resided together.
I have know her for X years and she has singlehandedly raised her children for that time"
3 pregnancies as a result of a few roots? Yeah right. Once maybe, twice bitten third time you’re a fool. No way would I consent to signing anything
Were they once in a. Relationship? It just seems odd she had 3 children to a man she sleeps with off and on
Bull crap. No one has 3 children to the same random 1 night stand. They're playing on your ignorance /innocence
Nope. If she hasn't worked out yet after three how babies are made maybe it's time she has to work to support them instead of taking another stab at welfare. He can step up and support them with more than "child support" too. Might just be the kick up the arse the pair of them need.
There are a few aspects :living together, supporting each other or having joint finances, and regarding themselves and being seen socially and by friends and family as a couple. If you haven't seen any of these signs you can say that. We are close friends, I visit her house weekly (or however often) and I have never met any partner or seen any evidence such as clothes or personal belongings other than of (your friend) and her children at their house. I have never heard of any joint financial arrangements with anyone, other than the payment of child support and she has never discussed with me any relationship she is having with a partner. I have never seen her at any social, family or public event with any partner. (or whatever is true, like since she ended her relationship with.... in.... (If she had a partner previously you have seen and discussed with her).