I’m 44 and just found out I’m pregnant. I already have 3 teenager children. My partner does not have kids. What would you do?
I’m 44 and just found out I’m pregnant. I already have 3 teenager children. My partner does not have kids. What would you do?
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I’d have a late baby, that’s what I’d do ❤️
I'd abort. Turning 60 before my child was 18 wouldn't be what I'd want for them. I also wouldn't want to go back to having a baby so long after I'd moved on from that phase of my life. Your grandchildren probably aren't that far away. But that's what I think in theory. The reality of the situation if it actually happened would be anyone's guess
This happened to my parents
My little sister turned 20 this week, I turn 40 tomorrow
It was a hard pregnancy for my mum, and we nearly lost them both during delivery but my parents adore her and us older siblings are slightly jealous of her unbringing, our parents have been more patient with her than they ever were with us and being essentially an "only" child they've been able to take her on holidays and stuff they could never afford when we were kids
I can't imagine our family without her, but I would have never judged my mum if she chose not to continue the pregnancy
Maybe find a counsellor to talk through the pros and cons
Me, I’d abort. I just couldn’t do it again. But it’s a personal choice and we can’t decide for you :)
I'd abort personally but the choice is completely up to you.
I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle a pregnancy at 44 since I struggled at 21 and 23 with gestational diabetes and birth complications. But that’s my personal experience.
I guess it depends on a lot of things for you and you need to weigh up all the options.
Goodluck.
I’m 40, I could never have another baby, but it’s so personal. Some 44 year olds have more energy than some 22 year olds and the big factor for me would be your partner. If he has never had kids, does he feel like this is his only chance, would he resent you if you terminated? Or has he not had children for a reason, he doesn’t want them. It’s a joint decision you will both have to make. I’m an old 40, actually feel like I’m 100, but then again I have a young child. Maybe you are refreshed because you have independent kids and are ready for a baby.
It doesn’t matter what any of us would do.... it comes down to what YOU want to do (and what you as a couple want to do).
I don't think thats what Id want to be doing in my late 40s and 50s. But this is you, not me.
This happened to me a few years ago, 36 and pregnant with 4 kids from 13 to 17. I did not want another it definitely wasn't planned. I decided to keep it though and was just getting my head around having another baby when I lost it at 13 weeks. I was devastated and still am sad but I honestly would not choose to fall pregnant again. I like where my life is right now I have freedom and can leave the kids at home when they piss me off 😂. If I had have had my baby I'm sure that I would be head over heels and saying something like "Wouldn't trade it for the world", like I did when my other kids were little. I think what I'm saying is that you are at the age where you will not have regrets either way. Don't let hormobes or emotions make decisions for you, use your brain to decide if this is the right thing for you, it will completely change things and the plans you had for the next stage of your life.