I am 22 weeks pregnant with second child to my partner I have never strayed or been tempted in 5 and a half years. He has increasingly become abusive and we broke up a few weeks ago. Originally we agreed he would leave at the end of my last term of uni in 6 weeks time so that it’s less stressful for me. Now he’s refusing to go he has threatened the baby and tried to harm the baby and now he is accusing me of becoming pregnant to someone else. I am just flabbergasted I feel like he’s just doing it to justify leaving me to give birth and raise two young kids on my own. How can I get through this I am so close to achieving my degree but home is hell and the stress is exhausting. I have connected with domestic violence organisations and all both our families know the situation. I do not feel supported by any of them just let down when phone calls are never returned and I am blamed for the abuse.
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Oh how awful for you! I would go
To Centrelink and speak to a social worker and get them to link you to
Local domestic violence supports. You need to start a plan for leaving especially as he has started threatening you and the baby. They will be able to help you work out what payments you can receive. You can be separated under one roof but if there is dv,it’s best you leave especially as being pregnant and the types of threats he is making. The social worker will refer you to a refuge and help you work out a plan for leaving safely. All the best Mumma xx
Step one get rid of him. Once hes out of your home youll be able to focus and get Uni finished. It'll be hell trying to do it while dealing with him too. He'll make sure you can't pass, or at least make it 100x harder than it should be.
You're pregnant, you're achieving Uni graduation, you're at really high risk of him increasing abuse right now.
If you have family, go to them. If he's refusing to go, you go. Pack up and go to a family member or friends place or shelter.
If you find you can't do it all, focus on moving out or having him removed.
You will be able to finish off a Uni course while baby is young. You won't want to, but you'll be able to make it happen. Definitely don't sacrifice your health by staying living with him just in order to finish Uni.