I run Australia's largest Sperm Donor Community "Sperm Donation Australia"
Many families married couples allow their husbands to donate for various methods, usually by Ai or clinic of course. Some examples "are we have 3 boys already and thinking about having trying 1 more time to have a girl but wonder if hubby only has boy sperm, so this may be a good way to help a couple families out to confirm this?" Another is we have had our wonderful children and they're so lovely, perfect and healthy that will feel it's a good way to help others out"
So my question is has anyone thought or considered becoming or letting hubby become a donor? I know it's not for everyone, but it would be interesting to hear thoughts? As there is a lot of people out there that would love to start their own family, it's a wonderful gift.
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I wouldn't let people who want a specific gender use donated sperm with the wait list so big it's not a reason yet alone valid
That's horrible to have a baby only to get a specific sex.
What? That sounds a ludicrous reason to donate.
Nope, sorry!
Donation comes with big consequences. I know a number of adult children who are sperm donor babies and it’s just not as simple as giving a family a gift as people make it seem. There are reasons why the laws around identifying the donor are changing and sperm donor children are lobbying for that change.
Just like we now know that adoption wasn’t the easy solution we once thought it was I think in the future we will feel the same about sperm and egg donation
Nope. I do not want the chance of my children having siblings out there and potentially coming into contact with said siblings. It just opens too many doors up. And what if they god-forbid ended up in a sexual relationship without even knowing it's a relative.
I just can't fathom it.
Nope, I’m selfish. No ones having my perfect baby makers put into them. I’d be very hesitant in letting someone use sperm to choose gender. My mate has two girls to two different women met his forever lady and they had a boy. She was really hoping for a girl because she didn’t have one. But it wasn’t to be.
I’d love to do egg donation once I’ve finished my children and providing I’m eligible.
That being said, I think it would suit me better to donate to a family who don’t have any children and can’t conceive their own for whatever reason.
I’ve always wanted to donate though, ever since I was young. I couldn’t possibly imagine the pain of not being able to have a family when you so desperately want to. If I could help one person with that dream of being a mum and going through pregnancy, I would.
That just turned me right off. A baby, of either gender is a gift. A gift! We have only boys (3!) and I would never think of going for #4 just for a girl. That line made me really pissed off, so I don't think you were aiming for that!!
I have offered to donate my eggs to a friend who is having fertility issues and would love to have 1 baby. But what you're posting is just...NO.
I was under the impression that gender selection was still illegal in Australia (with the exception of a risk of gender specific birth defects)?
I'm on the fence about this whole ethical dilemma, but the fact that some people could use the DNA i donated to manufacture a baby of their desired sex puts me off entirely.