I have posted replies a few times to peoples questions on Facebook. As far as I know I am not mean or nasty (as I get quite upset when people are to me) but for some unknown reason the replies that are put up to my replies are vile. They are actually quite upsetting. I deleted my last reply as two women were quite rude and mean. Is this not meant to be a space where we are meant to support each other and offer stories of what has happened to us? I was just wondering why these people have to reply if it is not nice. If you do not like it are you not able to just keep scrolling? Am I only only who thinks like this? as I feel like I am at times.
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Have to take the good with the bad in life and keep moving forward. Don't take anything to heart u read on here!
Nope not the only one. It seems like if your having a shit time then just pop over to this page and rip other women apart for fun.
If you go against the grain people will fb jump you, just ignore it or it ends up in a tit for tat argument with everyone trying to prove their point. If they're regular commenters that do it just block them. Everyone's entitled to their opinion.
You know what? I believe there's always room for a healthy debate, I also beleive that if you put your opinion out there on a public forum, you accept that there will be rebuttals and people who wholeheartedly disagree with you, so I feel you should always be open to a discussion about said opinions!
It does make me sad when I see threads descend into a vicious slinging match and I'm sorry to hear you feel you were treated rudely but I have learnt a few things after following this page for a while:
1. There is a minoriry of people (a rather vocal minority in fairness), who give responses on the Facebook page for the "likes", they don't care that a real person is on the receiving end of their often presumptuous and mean comments, they just do it for the instant validation the 20 'love' reactions their response gets.
You'll find these types of people in every corner of the internet, there's no use getting your back up over it!
2. This forum tackles some pretty heavy and controversial topics at times, the members of this community have really strong feelings on topics that they can relate to on a personal level or perhaps they are even triggered by certain topics, sometimes this causes people to respond in a more rude or blunt way than they would in a normal setting.
3. Some of the responses/advice given here is plain stupid, insulting and even on occasions - downright dangerous! People will call that shit out and rightly so!
I remember a post a while back, long story short a woman's husband would become abusive when he'd run out of drugs. One person's advice was to simply buy him more drugs! I'm not gonna lie, that suggestion made me so mad that I responded in a way that I'm not necessarily proud of but I also don't regret it because given the culture of domestic violence in this country, I felt the OP was in danger by following such ill advised suggestions.
There's never any need for name calling or personal attacks, I would never stoop that low and I think people who do lack the maturity to deal with conflict. However, rudeness is subjective and easily misinterpreted in text, it's hard to infer tone via text - something that sounds one way in a persons head quite often doesnt translate that way in the written form.
Really though, as sad as it is, you've gotta have a thick skin online. If you don't feel strong enough to do that, know your limits and log off!