I can’t help but to feel selfish at times. Selfish that I have chosen to have a handful of children. There are times where I feel sad for them. Sad because they never get the time and the attention a single child would get. Live is busy, so damn busy. We both work full time. I changed to flexible working hours so I could I spend more time with the kids but it’s always a struggle. I make sure I spend one on one time with each from time to time ... but observing everyone today at dinner, I can’t help but feel selfish for wanting a big family. They are cool little humans, they are strong, smart and independent because they always kinda had to fend for themselves or share our love and attention between their brothers and sisters.
How can I find more time in the day to spend more time with each single one rather then just once in a while?
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I have 5 brothers and 2 sisters. We shared rooms, struggled financially at times and all fought like cats and dogs....
Now we're adults we LOVE that we have come from a big family. We're all extremely hard workers. All of us have a trade or a bachelor's degree, that we've worked hard for. We're all compassionate and would help anyone of they needes it.
We're also super close to each other and our parents. We ALL love that we are part of a big family. Now we're all having our own kids and they get to hang out with their cousins all the time. As adults with our own careers we don't get to all see each other as much as we would like. We FaceTime regularly and Christmas is THE BEST.
Don't ever feel bad. Having ALL of my siblings has been a better gift than having my parents to myself.
You're doing a good job mumma. Don't doubt yourself. You've got this.