I moved states to be closer to my daughters family and father he has a close relationship with her but has been absent dad leaving it all to me for the last 8 years due to living out of state, having his own family and working FIFO. I left my job of 15years now earning half of what i did before Im drowing in debt from the move & living with my ex in-laws we cant afford to move out we live pay check to pay check I feeling like a huge burden Ive always supported myself and child financially without help and used to being independent. I cant even afford a gym membership. My daughter is loving the move while i feel lonely and isolated ive chosen to distance myself from family gatherings to not get in the way its awkward around my ex and sucks being igbored. Considering packing up and moving home can go back to old job but my girl will be devistated. Do i just suck it up or pack up.
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Give it more time to get settled. Find your own place to live - find a share house with similar people to you. Then go to family gatherings. Find your own activities, classes, groups. Moving is hard but building your routine and connections in the community will help you settle in.
Does he pay child support? Maybe you need to have a chat with him and tell him the situation you're in and if he wants you to stay there so he can see his daughter then he needs to support you so you don't have to move back to your old job. You have made a huge sacrifice for her relationship with him make sure he realises that.
Pack up and go home. Do what is right for you. your daughter is old enough to visit him on her own when she likes. I would be gone if I was you.!
Sorry I read 15 and presumed she was 15. You are doing all this for him and her! What about you and her, it was his choice. I’d be back where I was happy & working. If he ignores then he is childish and hasn’t appreciated you moving closer. Go home, you will be happier there and happier for her.
Pack up and go back to your old job. it’s good you have done this for her but it won’t be good for your mental health in the long run. Your daughter will understand. You can tell her he is working, he was away a lot working so it should be easier. I wouldn’t hang around, how depressing!