My husband and I have separated and I’ve been trying to find Info with no luck so I’m hoping the community can answer for me. And show me where to find info.
It’s a very amicable split, and he is an amazing dad to our kids.
I’m hoping to move about 2 hours away with the kids and I’ve been trying to find out if that’s ok?
Dad has agreed to the move and we have sorted out when he will see the kids etc
But just wondering and trying to find out, on a legal basis is there anything I need to do? Or is it enough that we’ve agreed and sorted everything ourselves?
Edit to add - this move has been planned for 4 years after I started a mature age uni course and the plan was always to move our family to this area for my work once I had finished uni, which I have now done. Unfortunately we are separating but the work opportunities in my field are non existent where we live which is why we had always planned the move
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If he’s a really good dad why are you moving 2 hours away where they won’t have consistent contact which they’re used to. Not to mention they’ll be travelling for at least 4 hours of his access which will be tiring and then they’ll complain and you’ll be all like well we can talk to your dad about you not going etc or you’ll be telling him how upsetting it is for them to have to travel so far every other weekend (which is he’s a good dad he deserves way more time with them)
If you have dads permission go ahead and do it. He’s not going to stop you. However if he hasn’t agreed he’ll be able to take you to mediation and get court orders that prevent you going. If he’s not complaining or saying no then who else’s permission do you need?
It’s not an awesome idea to just up and move 2 hours away from everything they know. New school, new friends and very minimal time with dad. Plus everything that goes with the separation.
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Just make sure he puts it in writing. You can move to the moon if you want and he agrees.
Is that really fair? Your essentially alienating them from a “good dad”. 4 hours return trip is pretty significant.
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Fair enough! I would get a parenting plan in writing signed by both parties. So he can’t change his mind later down the track.
Get it in writing, this is far from alienation.