Hey IMs I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant with a baby my partner and I have been planning. I was excited at first but in the last 2 week's I have had several panic attacks about having this baby and I don't know if it's fear, regret or nervousness.
We are ok financially at the moment but I worry we won't be after I have to leave my job. I'm casual and won't get maternity leave on top of that my boss doesn't know I'm pregnant yet and that's creating all amounts of anxiety as I'm starting to show. I worry she will fire me out of spite and we just couldn't afford to live without some kind of payment or wage. I know legally she can't fire me for being pregnant but she will find another reason so it doesn't look that way.
2ndly my relationship is perfect we have a great connection he's supportive he's my best friend my soul mate my everything he's all I've ever been after in a man after surviving a DV relationship for 8 years. I fear that will all change that we won't get us time or we can't enjoy moments together due to tiredness or stress. I know a baby brings changes but am I making a storm in a teacup? Will it be that drastic? Have I made a huge mistake? I can't answer these and when I do i get upset and everything looks even worse and I find more things to have an issue with.
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Completely normal to feel this way. Your hormones are all over the place too which adds to the extra worry.
When is your next midwife or Dr appointment? It's worth mentioning this to them so they know what's on your mind.
This was definitely me both pregnancies, despite both kids being planned. I think you're always bound to have periods of thinking you did the wrong thing, can you actually do this ect..
And for me, it's never been as hard as everyone makes it out to be. But I don't think it's entirely bad to think the worst and then be shocked when it's not that hard...
How long have you been with Your Partner?
How long have you been in your job?
That info would help to know if your fears are real or just hormones.
It’s normal, it’s anxiety and the moment you hold your little baby in your arms, all of it will dissapear and you will know right in that moment that nothing else matters.