We have two boys under 4 and until recently was undecided about a third. That was until we went away late last year and realised two was enough for us. We’ve since found out we’re pregnant!
Please remind us of the pros to having 3 kids so we can adopt a positive mindset.
*I know we’re very fortunate to have fallen pregnant when others struggle with fertility but not everyone’s situation is the same and we all have our own struggles.
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I’m on of three.
Pros:
If I was annoyed with one I could go play with the other and vice versa.
How do u both decide two is enough for you, then take no precautions? Neither of you were sure.
Congrats on your planned third.
When we were already unknowingly pregnant.
There’s no need for the sarcastic post - just keep scrolling if you have nothing encouraging to say.
This comment was so unnecessary. Contraception can fail for a number of reasons. There is no such thing as 100% protection even with having your tubes done.
Well it didn't say that in the post. Might wanna re word it. It looks like after the fact the way its written.
Owe ffs! Shut up with your judgmental crap, accidents happen and contraception fails.
3 kids is awesome, I was one of three and I’m now myself having number 5. Christmas is so happy, there is always someone to play with, and the love your older ones will show your baby with just melt you heart.
Shut up bitch , i DID say 'congratulatins' !
How did YOU read through this woman's entire post and decide this was the best advice you could offer up?
Congrats on being an a-hole!
You re the asshole. I read the post. Looks like it was saying they decided on just two then went ahead with a third anyway . Out of my entire comment u also missed the 'congratulations' part.
Pfft, pardon us for not seeing the sincerity in your "congratulations" that was fraught with undertones of inherhant sarcasm and judgment 🙄🙄
Your congratulations comes across as judgemental and insincere because you're calling the pregnancy planned when the poster clearly indicates it wasn't. They were considering a 3rd child, not trying, and then found out they were pregnant after deciding on 2. If you meant the congratulations as a way to soften your comment I think that got lost in translation I'm afraid.
As for contraception, it's not fool proof. Further more, humans make unintended errors. When I was dating, contraception was something I was acutely aware of. Slightly upset tummy, antibiotics, anything that could affect it and I was paranoid. Married it stopped being something I thought of at all at times. In fact after years of sex with no contraception (trying for a bub and then pregnant × 2), I sucked at remembering that contraception was something I actually needed to consider! I was frequently losing track of when I was due to get another dose so hubby went and got the snip. We definitely only wanted 2 and are very happy we didn't get caught out due to forgetfulness.
To the poster... every number has their pros and cons. At the end of the day, once you love this child, the thought that you might have stayed a 4 will be weird because 5 will become your "whole" family
I had an 2 year old, 8 month old and found out I was pregnant.
To say I was shitting myself was an understatement!
It was hard, i still have moments where I think of how much more convenient and easier it would be if we stopped at 2 but this kiddo completed our family, she's an absolute character.
The kids are all pretty good mates too and they do tend to keep each other occupied.
I really don't see the difference between 2 and 3 kids. You're already juggling everything a 3rd just kind of slots right in quite easily! No need for a bigger house or bigger car. My 4th was the biggest change to our family, that's when things get tough like cars, bedrooms, entry fees into places and accommodation. Like everywhere is max 3 kids. You will be fine! Congratulations!
I've heard that the 3rd bub just kinda fits in with everything, it's not as hard as going from 1 to 2.
As one of 3, I am equally but differently close with my younger sisters. We're all in our mid-late 30s now, but we had a good time growing up together. Lots of fun on family trips. My sisters shared a room as kids and I had my own. I loved having two siblings then, and now. If circumstances had been different I would have loved to give my child one or more siblings.
Seriously, the answer won’t change, no matter how many times this question is asked...is it weekly, fortnight? Would love the stats......so here’s the fb responses you’ll get:
The third just slotted right in, she completed our family.
Having a third is really hard because there is always one that is left out.
I was the same when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant with my third, didn’t accept it throughout the pregnancy, but when I saw her I just knew she completed our family.
I went on to have a fourth because I don’t like odd numbers.
Judging from the memes on Facebook....three children is like some kind of purgatory hell. 2 is fine, 4 is fine, but apparently three is a death number. 😂😂😂
Good luck.
Yes I have 3 my brain feels like mush somedays. I found 2 easy, 3 is just a little more chaos and really
Wish I
Had a 4th but in saying that I love having 3. I just left it too late to have a 4th but really wanted 4.
Haha this is so me.... except I was forty when I had my third and there was no way we were going back for number 4!
3 is a cool number. My first 2 were 16 months apart, but number 3 arrived when the older 2 were 4&5 so the age gap was much more manageable.
Please ignore the haters about contraception or unexpected pregnancy. I was on the pill when I found out about number 3. I had doubts, but certainly wouldn’t change it all now.
Haha this is so me.... except I was forty when I had my third and there was no way we were going back for number 4!
3 is a cool number. My first 2 were 16 months apart, but number 3 arrived when the older 2 were 4&5 so the age gap was much more manageable.
Please ignore the haters about contraception or unexpected pregnancy. I was on the pill when I found out about number 3. I had doubts, but certainly wouldn’t change it all now.
I have 2 boys 9 and 6 years and always longed for a third for a long time but reality is we can't move forward and live a sustainable lifestyle with another so I decided that chapter had closed for me and my familt. Untill recently found out I'm pregnant and last week realising alot further along than expected, we decided after many many sleepless nights, we can't go back to having a baby, time off work, moving into a bigger house, upgrading our car. I know this isn't what your asking but I thought I would tell my story and say it is okay to realise you can't cope.
3 is chaos and I always said if I had 3, then I would have 4. I wish I had mine younger to have a 4th just to even out the numbers and so my youngest had one closer to her age. I love having 3 but it’s slightly more chaotic. I wouldn’t change it for the world. Best thing I ever did was have my 3rd!
I didn’t mean it as in just to even out the numbers like it sounded lol.. I meant I really wanted 4 as I was one
Of 3 and hated it growing up. I was always left out from my older 2 siblings and always said I would
Never have 3. I did have 3 but sometimes I wish I had a 4th especially now they are older. Sometimes with the 3 There is the odd one out but they always swap around.