Does anyone else live rural/isolated?
It was always fun until my two children hit teen and pre teen ages, now I just feel guilty.
They desperately want to ride around with friends or walk to the shops like we see when we visit the closest town.
Iam their sole parent We escaped DV when they were younger, both still receive counselling and struggle with their self worth and confidence but it’s something we are aware of and are working on.
I work a lot so juggling time is hard, but I still reach out and attend local events when I can with my children only to feel on the outer of the families attending, it’s hard to smile and start conversations only to have people turn away.
I try organising catch ups, activities ,sleep overs but rarely get a reply. I end up letting them be on their devices more so they actually have some contact with other people their age not just me.
Financially I’m unable to move into town atm and both children have just finished sports. They’ve both started to become unsure of themselves and confidence has dropped so are flat out begging not to be put back into sports etc ...
we are all hanging for school to go back so they can see others again.
I’m not sure what I’m asking , just venting I guess. I dream of this “village” and friend group where my children have company and conversation abundant but I’m struggling to find it anywhere and the longer it continues the worse the Mum guilt gets and the lonelier they become.
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Do you really want to move into that town anyway, they sound pretty snobby! Do your kids have friends at school, if they can't find friends through the holidays then maybe that's the case at school too? Would you consider boarding school? I know it's expensive but depending how isolated you are you might be eligible for discounts or even free boarding, and there are boarding houses that aren't exclusively to private schools. There's more choice on friends and your kids have a better chance of finding "their people".