Would love some advise I currently have 3 beautiful girls and really wanting to try for baby number 4 would love a baby boy. if we end up having a boy that would be amazing but if we had a girl we would love her the exact same my question is would you have baby number 4 knowing that the chance of having a boy would be very slim I would love to be able to experience that mother son bond so many mothers have thanks
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Have another child if you want another child. Having a child because you have imagined a specific type of bond is going to leave you confused and disappointed.
I don’t know what particular bond you think boy mums have, but what I can tell you is every single child is unique and just because you’ve imagined bonding with a boy in a particular way, doesn’t mean that boy is going to want to bond that way.
So I’d probably hold off and analyse what you are looking for.
PS I am the mum of a boy
My opinion is don't have another baby. You're imagining something that may never happen and are setting yourself up for disappointment.
My friend had 3 girls and really wanted a boy. She had a 4th and bub was a boy. Well she was happy at first but he hated being in a family of all girls and bullies and fights his sisters all the time. They don't have a close bond now and he has been a really difficult child. I would really just enjoy and focus on your girls for now. It's not really a good time to be thinking about getting pregnant anyway.
I have 3 girls and a boy #4.
We decided to have baby #4 because we wanted another baby, preferably a boy but we would have been happy if he was a girl.
We used the shelters method of conceiving, sex only on ovulation day, using ovulation sticks to make sure it was the right day . I gave hubby 3 months using that method before we’d go all in and try normally. It only took 1 try, obviously I’m very fertile.
The bond, yes it can be different boys vs girls but all my girls are so different anyways and the boy is too. He’s much more into the cuddles than my girls were at 4, but my 10yr girl has just recently become very cuddly so I think they go through dif stages at dif times.