TRIGGER WARNING: Miscarriage
I have two gorgeous children and recently fell pregnant with our third. Unfortunately I lost the baby at 11 weeks, which was absolutely devastating. I have really struggled with the physical and emotional rollercoaster of it all.
I was so excited when I got pregnant and couldn’t wait to become a family of five. It would have meant a little shuffling around of our home and some sibling room sharing, but I prepared to make it work. Now I don’t know what to do.
I am almost 41 and I felt like this pregnancy came at the perfect time, like our last chance to grow our family. We also conceived very easily after having fertility issues in the past, so it felt ‘meant to be’. I don’t know if I can go through the whole process of trying and waiting month after month to potentially go through another loss. Should I just be grateful for our two healthy, happy kids?
I’d love to hear from people who have been at a similar crossroad. What factors did you consider and how did it all work out? If you decided not to try for another baby, have you regretted it?
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Very very similar story, only I am a fair bit younger so I guess I don't have time against me as well.
This is definintly a decision only you and your partner can really make.
For me, I know I am destined to have more then my two beautiful kids... It's just for whatever reason (as we fell pregnant really quick the third time too) that thibgs changed and it wasn't meant to be.
Miscarriage was at 11 weeks back in November. And we've currently decided to wait a little while. But again, our age doesn't matter at this point.
My miscarriage has taught me to trust in the universe and the timing of things. And that deep deep down, you'd know what the right decision is for your family. Take some time out to really access where your heart is. It's completely okay if you don't want to have any more. And it's completely okay to feel like their is some one else waiting to come into y o ur life.
I say go for it. Yes another loss will hurt.. but I dare say feeling like you should of when you could of feeling stays with you a lot longer
Msg me if u would like to chat. I could have written this myself, I’m in the exact same situation xo
Msg me if u would like to chat. I could have written this myself, I’m in the exact same situation xo
I would not ‘try’ but just don’t use contraception and see what happens. Give it a timeframe though so you can move on if it doesn’t happen. Be aware though that having a baby after 40 is a lot harder on your body than before!!