Hello everyone!
How does everyone deal with their snoring partners? Im currently pregnant in my 3rd trimester I bearly get any sleep as it with an active bubba kicking all night let alone with my partner snoring all night. He's a champion snorer and a really loud one at that he can snore on his sides, his back and on his stomach which is meant to be impossible. I can wake him up as he's a really light sleeper but he rolls over and literally within 2 seconds he's snoring again and it goes on all night. I'm hoping bubba is good sleeper and that it doesn't bother him when he arrives otherwise I don't know what I'm going to do. I've tried to get my partner to go to the doc but he wont, I dont think he understands how bad he actually is. I love him to bits but some nights I lay there n just cry coz I'm so bloody tired it's impossible to sleep with a continuous tractor in your ear.
I guess I'm having a rant but also how have u guys dealt with this?
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I had exactly the same problem.
My husband eventually tried to prove me wrong & downloaded an app that records snoring. He was so shocked by hearing his own volume & seeing frequency (all night) he agreed to seek help.
In the interim, I used earplugs & DH moved into spare room (still needed earplugs lol). Of course I couldn't use those with a baby (& still now with young kids). He needed a cpap.
So I'd be saying get a sleep study & I'm sleeping elsewhere until you do. Record it if necessary. Tell him it's unfair to ignore your need for sleep so you're taking action to get it.
Sleep apnoea I bet! He def needs a sleep study and most likely a cpap machine. Sleep apnoea can be very dangerous if left untreated.
He needs to see a doctor! He needs a proper medical exam. If he won’t do it, then record him over night so he can hear himself! Use the sound thing on the iPad that records the loudness.
But personally if he doesn’t get help I’d be sleeping in separate rooms. You Need to Get some Sleep. Lack of sleep can trigger mental disorders and with a baby coming your sleep is going to be disrupted enough.
Start with the pharmacy and see about a sleep study, you hire a machine to take home and it records your breathing to see if you have sleep apnea. If he does he's best off to get a cpap machine.
My partner snores like a freight train and has even been asked to leave his brothers house and sleep in a tent in the backyard when staying there one weekend as he kept the whole house awake. He is well known for his freight train snoring. Finally got him to get a sleep test done and it was the worst our pharmacist had ever seen. He has a cpap machine now and there is zero snoring, a light hum from the machine but its nothing. He feels a lot better too since he started it.
GP review for a referral for either an ENT review or sleep study. Find the underlying cause.
If you have a spare room, boot him into it until he gets checked out. I'm the snorer in my relationship - we've slept separately for years because, unfortunately, I *don't* have sleep apnoea (I had a sleep study done) and my snoring is a product of several factors, physical (mostly face shape, soft palate and partly my weight), genetic and allergy related. There's no simple fix (there are surgeries that could help but my mum who has the same problem had them all and they didn't help her) so we just sleep separately 🤷♀️
He really does need a sleep study done though. Apnoea causes fatigue and can lead to heart disease
Say you are desperate for some solid sleep and ask nicely for him to sleep on the sofa for a couple of days.
Then work on getting him to the doctor.
I kicked my husband into another room. Once I had babies it became a whole new realm of tiredness. Every minute of sleep counts.
Arg i feel your pain!!! My hubby did go to the doctor and it's not sleep apnea just a narrow something-a-rather. I got him to go to the doctor by recording him, and waking him up every time he snored loud enough to wake me. I said i would stop waking him if he went to the doctor.
Get a sleep study done. You can do it from home, he might have apnea. Hubby got a cpap after years and years of horrific snoring, he’s now silent!
Separate bedrooms. It was hard to get my head around at first as I thought we’d miss the closeness of sleeping in the same bed and I’ve actually cried over it but it’s honestly been the best thing for us and we both sleep better.
I am the snorer and while we share a bed occasionally I find neither of us usually gets much sleep - him because I snore so loudly, and me because I’m worried about snoring (he’s also a bit of an octopus in his sleep).
We snuggle up in the big bed before I go to bed in another room, and I hop into bed with him about half an hour before we have to get up in the morning. We still have plenty of sexy time too 😉
In the end, I think getting enough sleep is the most important part, no matter how you have to do it. Good luck xx