Ive never had an issue. It is your house , so you can say what youre not ok with property wise, but if youre feeling the need to pull my house my rules to tell the other off or over turn the other parents parenting then hard no.
Depends on what you're talking about. Just general house and play rules yes, your rules. Rules that apply to the childs safety, health, well being then the parents rules should be respected. Eg. You let your 10 year old walk to the park but that would be a big no for his friend, then that should be respected.
I don't allow playdates where parents aren't present. I expect them to keep their kids in line, as do I for mine. I've never had an issue.
I admit when one friend comes over I remove a lot of toys, board games, etc. & close all doors off as her kids will go through the house & dump everything out they can find because they're allowed to at home & I can't bear it!
A lot of kids we've had over are accustomed to run around eating, helping themselves to the pantry, jumping all over furniture and generally running amock at their house.
That doesn't fly in my house.
In saying that, I'm mindful of other parent's preferences.
For example, my kids are allowed to watch Stranger Things, some of their friends aren't. So I'm not gonna be like "my house, my rules", I'll respect their parent's boundaries on things like that.
It depends on the child! If my niece is coming to stay she gets the run of my house, can help herself to food and drink, although she will usually ask before doing anything. If the girl who is essentially my niece’s step sister is also coming then it’s very much my house my rules, and I will be quite strict about what is and isn’t allowed, and dad is pleased that I will lay down the law with his daughter (there are behaviour issues that are still being determined by specialists and allied health professionals). My niece understands why I’m stricter when the other girl is here too, and is happy to sneak off with Aunty for a chocolate or lolly when the other girl isn’t looking.
Ahh.. Why. Ever think maybe that's why the step child has issues because you treat them differently? Sneaking one away for chocolate while the other misses out? Sorry but that's hideous. You're making your neice feel as though she's more important than her step sister. I really hope this is not how they are treated in their home. Good old "my step kid is acting horrible and I don't know why". Treat them all the same and you will have less issues. You have your neice on her own, surely that's the time for treats?
Youre also training a nice kid to be deviant and selfish. Taking a sneaky moment to take what you want secretly isnt a good quality. Have treats they can both have when they're both around.
This comment broke my heart for the other little girl 😪
When I was growing up there was always very obviously different rules for us than there was our step sister, she was often snuck into another room by her grandparents or aunts and she'd come back with a smug little grin.
We knew exactly what was up...
I was in my teens so I understood that it was simply favouritism but my brother who also had behavioural disorders was the same age as our step sister, it deeply hurt him.
Oh wow. This is horrendous. I get if the other child has behavioural issues needing a stronger presence as an adult... But sneaking your niece off for treats is rewarding her for being your favourite, or neurodevelopmentally normal, or psychologically stable or whatever the case may be. No situation makes that ok. Disgusting
Yes. Of course. If it's unsafe in my opinion for my kids, it's unsafe for others. If my kids aren't allowed to do something, neither are their friends. My son's best friend watches movies I don't approve of. They don't watch them here.
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Ive never had an issue. It is your house , so you can say what youre not ok with property wise, but if youre feeling the need to pull my house my rules to tell the other off or over turn the other parents parenting then hard no.
Depends on what you're talking about. Just general house and play rules yes, your rules. Rules that apply to the childs safety, health, well being then the parents rules should be respected. Eg. You let your 10 year old walk to the park but that would be a big no for his friend, then that should be respected.
I don't allow playdates where parents aren't present. I expect them to keep their kids in line, as do I for mine. I've never had an issue.
I admit when one friend comes over I remove a lot of toys, board games, etc. & close all doors off as her kids will go through the house & dump everything out they can find because they're allowed to at home & I can't bear it!
Yes, to a degree.
A lot of kids we've had over are accustomed to run around eating, helping themselves to the pantry, jumping all over furniture and generally running amock at their house.
That doesn't fly in my house.
In saying that, I'm mindful of other parent's preferences.
For example, my kids are allowed to watch Stranger Things, some of their friends aren't. So I'm not gonna be like "my house, my rules", I'll respect their parent's boundaries on things like that.
I do - my rule is my home is open to you and do as you please.
Their presence is temporary, the mess they make can be cleaned, the food they help themselves to can be replaced :)
So relax, have fun and enjoy !
It depends on the child! If my niece is coming to stay she gets the run of my house, can help herself to food and drink, although she will usually ask before doing anything. If the girl who is essentially my niece’s step sister is also coming then it’s very much my house my rules, and I will be quite strict about what is and isn’t allowed, and dad is pleased that I will lay down the law with his daughter (there are behaviour issues that are still being determined by specialists and allied health professionals). My niece understands why I’m stricter when the other girl is here too, and is happy to sneak off with Aunty for a chocolate or lolly when the other girl isn’t looking.
Ahh.. Why. Ever think maybe that's why the step child has issues because you treat them differently? Sneaking one away for chocolate while the other misses out? Sorry but that's hideous. You're making your neice feel as though she's more important than her step sister. I really hope this is not how they are treated in their home. Good old "my step kid is acting horrible and I don't know why". Treat them all the same and you will have less issues. You have your neice on her own, surely that's the time for treats?
Youre also training a nice kid to be deviant and selfish. Taking a sneaky moment to take what you want secretly isnt a good quality. Have treats they can both have when they're both around.
This comment broke my heart for the other little girl 😪
When I was growing up there was always very obviously different rules for us than there was our step sister, she was often snuck into another room by her grandparents or aunts and she'd come back with a smug little grin.
We knew exactly what was up...
I was in my teens so I understood that it was simply favouritism but my brother who also had behavioural disorders was the same age as our step sister, it deeply hurt him.
Oh wow. This is horrendous. I get if the other child has behavioural issues needing a stronger presence as an adult... But sneaking your niece off for treats is rewarding her for being your favourite, or neurodevelopmentally normal, or psychologically stable or whatever the case may be. No situation makes that ok. Disgusting
Yes. Of course. If it's unsafe in my opinion for my kids, it's unsafe for others. If my kids aren't allowed to do something, neither are their friends. My son's best friend watches movies I don't approve of. They don't watch them here.